Tuesday, November 1, 2016

Blog: Superwoman's Demise The other day a friend called and exclaimed how exhausted she was. As her scenario unfolded, she was fatigued of work, family, obligations, responsibilities, and even social activities. Hortense was just plain tired. As we conversed, I heard a repeated phrase, I can’t do anything about it. It became apparent that Hortense’s fatigue related to feeling out of control. She had exaggerated her responsibilities and placed unrealistic demands on herself. Hortense placed herself in charge of everyone’s happiness, feelings of worth and success (except her own, of course). This over dramatization increased her obligations to others, her inability to fulfill these requirements, and exacerbated her guilt. Superman would have buckled under these demands and would most likely have hung up his cape in the attempt to meet them. Hortense’s exhaustion was the result of setting impossible demands and expectations for herself. Do you do the same? Ask yourself, What can I control? Answering this question honestly can dramatically change ones perception of responsibility. Filling your life with meaningless obligation complicates things. It results in no time for activities and relationships that add value, depth and meaning. Trying to make other people happy is psychological arm-twisting. The smiles produced are superficial and have no lasting value. You can’t MAKE someone happy any more than someone can MAKE you happy. Happiness is a choice. You are the one in control of your state of happiness as others are in control of theirs. Doing things that encourages feeling good, useful, accomplished, and fulfilled, produces happiness. These behaviors further set an example of practical responsibility for others. People learn to cause their own good feelings; they model the same; and the word spreads. As each person chooses to be in charge of his own happiness, instead of waiting for someone else to supply it, a relationship weight is lifted, and, Walla! You feel energized. Plus, with this burden gone, relationships have a greater chance of being healthy! Enjoy! Much love, Jean My books will change your life: Set Yourself Free: Live the Life YOU were meant to live! Be Outrageous: Do the Impossible - Others have and you can too! Dreams and the Symbology of Life! All are available on Amazon.com
Blog: Is your Intuition Powerful? Dr. Elmer R. Gates of Chevy Chase, Maryland, thought so. He used it to create useful patents. He became one of the great scientists in the world. In his years of cultivating and using his creative faculty, he produced more than 200 patents. He used a unique method to tap into his creative genius, a method that could be adopted by anyone desiring inspired results. In his laboratory, Gates created what he termed his personal communication room. This was a soundproofed room, furnished meagerly with a table and a tablet on which to write. A push-button on the wall controlled the lighting. When he chose to tap into his creative imagination, he entered this room and turned off the lights. There, he concentrated on the invention he was developing. He would sit until ideas relative to his project began to flash across his mind. There were occasions when his mind was so prolific, he wrote for hours. He wrote until his mind ran dry, so to speak. Through this process, his creative imagination produced minute descriptions of ideas and principles that were not yet known to the scientific world. This was the manner in which he produced his patents. He basically made his living by sitting for ideas. He did this for some of the major corporations in America, as well. Edison and Gates shared the use of this creative faculty, although each had their own way of accessing it. Edison made use of a cot situated in his laboratory. When he got stuck on a project, not sure what to do next, he would lie down on the cot and take a nap. He did this while holding a piece of metal. As he relaxed, the metal would drop from his hand and clink as it hit the floor. This would wake him from his sleep and he would write down the ideas that flowed from his mind. Genius has its ways. The information that came through the minds of these great men superseded the reasoning mind’s capacity. These thoughts came directly from Source, the Universe. In contrast, the intellect is incredibly limited in its supply. If you depend on reasoning alone, you are sometimes misled, since there is great disparage in how you perceive information, often tainted with the biases you hold. By working with your creative faculty, you open yourself to unlimited potential. It is your vast, unfettered, pure resource. __________________________________________________________ My books: Read them and you will never be the same. Set Yourself Free: Live the Life YOU were meant to live! Be Outrageous: Do the Impossible - Others have and you can too! Dreams and the Symbology of Life! All are available on Amazon.com

Tuesday, October 11, 2016

A Fascinating, imaginative way to Serve! When it comes to interesting ways to solve a problem, Lynn Zwerling might win the prize. In late 2009, Zwerling stood in front of 600 male prisoners at the Pre-Release Prison Unit in Jessup, Maryland. Her opening line was "Who wants to knit?" The burly men were taken back with the idea. But Lynn Zwerling assured them that men had invented the craft. Nearly two years later, Zwerling and her associates have instructed more than 100 prisoners to knit, while dozens more wait to take her weekly class. "I have guys that have never missed one time in two years," comments Zwerling. "Some have reported that they miss dinner to come to class." Even though the men were reluctant at first, complaining that knitting was too girly or difficult, they yielded to a five-minute knitting lesson and, as Zwerling puts it, "the men found zen and became hooked." The Warden worried about freely handing out knitting needles to prisoners who had been convicted of violent crimes so it took five years before her idea was accepted. Assistant Warden, Margaret Chippendale, is on record that the men involved with knitting get into trouble less often. "It's very positive because you can see when you go into the room, the dynamics of their conversation; very calm, very soothing," Chippendale says. "It radiates even when they leave the room and go out into the institution." Richy Horton, 38, served almost four years at the Pre-Release Prison Unit and reluctantly joined the knitting class six months prior to release. Horton’s reaction was "I’m not going to that thing. And then I went to class and you were actually speaking to real people. People can’t really understand that in prison you’re completely separated from anything normal or real in the world. You’re always told what to do and when to do it, so to have people come in and treat you like a human being means so much. They came in and they were like my mom." The men started by knitting comfort dolls, which they gave to children removed from their homes because of domestic issues. Then they moved on to hats for kids at the inner-city elementary school. Each week the men eagerly await the women's arrival, then promptly get to work. "It takes you away a little," Horton says. "You have to watch what you’re doing, otherwise your stitches will become loose or tight or you’ll skip stitches. It almost makes you feel like you don't have to be anything. You’re all sitting there knitting. You can just be yourself." Kudos to Lynn Zwerling for coming up with a great way to offer service. She gets to share her passion and the men get to relax and be themselves and offer service to the community. Win, win, win! To reach Jean Walters, Transformational Coach, Author and teacher, call 314 991 8439 or jean@spiritualtransformation. Author of: Set Yourself Free: Live the Life YOU were meant to live! and Be Outrageous: Do the Impossible - Others have and you can too! (Believe in yourself and rekindle your spirit)

Thursday, September 22, 2016

Simple Practice: Bring more Love into your Life Babies radiate love. People are draw to these beautiful, little packages that know only love. We connect with them and want to experience the simple joy of a baby. Puppies have the same effect. They automatically love you. You don’t have to do anything to earn their love. It is unconditional and holds no bounds. This is our true state – radiant love without bounds. But what happens to reduce and diminish us to a consciousness of fear and restriction, of distrust and anger. Somehow we forget who we are. Instead of expanding our love to include everything and everyone, we start to retract and become selective. You love your ethnic group, family, tribe, your religious sect and close out those who seem different. We are afraid of those we look, dress, or speak in dissimilar dialects. Soon we are retracted into balls of opinions, delusions, judgments, and preferences where before there was radiance. As thinking, rational beings we have the ability to make choices. We can look at the outer shell and project our own insecurities, fear, and unknowing or we can see the light in each person and recognize that the outer form is just a defense or definition. Inside there is light (love) beaning its boundlessness and desire to share. Holding in love when it needs expression is painful. Why? Because we are going against who we are – our natural state. We are still babies ready to grin, giggle, and share our inner essence. Let’s return to that state of innocence and purity by making it a practice to smile at people. That is what babies do. Tell them (mentally, if you wish) how much you love them. You love their light. You love the purity of their essence, even if they have lost sight of it themselves. See it for them. This can be your practice with each person you encounter. See their inner essence of radiant light and love. Bless them with a smile. And, guess what, through the law of cause and effect, what cycles back to you will be love! Take the restraints off your life and guess what – fear and restriction disappear. It is a choice. Order Set Yourself Free: Live the Life YOU were meant to Live! http://rdrpublishers.com/products/set-yourself-free-life-the-life-you-were-meant-to-live

Monday, September 19, 2016

The Supremacy of Love One way we demonstrate love is through friendship. Buddhists have a term, metta, for the quality of boundless friendship toward oneself or others. Metta refers to being loving and kind. Practicing this principle, particularly toward people you don’t know, expands your innate capacity for connecting. Through the quality of loving-kindness, you are able to break the habits of apathy and judgment that generate a feeling of separation from others. Separation fosters fear and prejudice. Every person has the potential for friendship and kindness. It exists within everyone, no matter what dire experiences each have endured. This capacity cannot be destroyed, although it can be ignored or neglected. The way you can rediscover your metta capability is to take a positive interest in people. We’re often running through life so fast that we overlook or discount people. They don’t even register. Yet relationships make up the fiber of our lives and constitute our greatest challenge and opportunity. Practice being attentive. Start with someone you don’t really know. As you pay attention, you will learn things about the person and yourself. Next, hold that person in your heart with a feeling of genuine warmth. At the same time, mentally wish that person well. In short order, you will no longer feel like a stranger. Your world will begin to change. Your life will suddenly feel freer. The next step is to practice with someone you feel ambivalent toward. Aha! It gets easier. With success, you get bolder, which ultimately leads you to people with whom you’re in conflict. Choose someone you have injured or who has harmed you. With tenacity, you will get past the lightning bolts of anger. Your rage will dissipate over time and you will discover increased energy and deeper love, deeper than you had ever imagined. As your attention opens to the people you formerly dismissed, your world expands, along with your connection to yourself. Work on your ability to be kind and loving, and you will discover how truly unlimited and safe you are. Why does this work? Because God is Love and we are individual sparks of God. Love is our inner essence, our core. When you remove the blocks of fear, shame, guilt, anger, and unforgiveness, which obstruct your true nature, love radiates from your center, illuminating the mind, body, and situations. At that point, practicing metta becomes a way of life. All things appear new in the light of love. Jesus, our prototype, not only centered his teaching on love, he emanated it. His teaching demonstrates love’s supremacy and overriding power. This blog is excerpted from Set Yourself Free: Live the Life YOU were Meant to Live. To order Set Yourself Free go to: http://rdrpublishers.com/products/set-yourself-free-life-the-life-you-were-meant-to-live

Thursday, August 4, 2016

Managing Peace In this time of craziness, when the world seems to erupt with emotion and anger, it is most important that we turn inward to the peace that passes understanding. It appears that there is poison being expelled from our collective system. The ego regurgitates chaos and noise. And so we move to the stillness of nature to grasp more firmly the rhythm and flow of gentleness, kindness, nurturing. It is time to seek with fortitude and discipline a higher Spirit than the world (news) portrays. We are reminded, there are folks who give in heartfelt ways. There are people who continue to smile in the midst of dissolution and the smoke and dust of anger filled rooms, who reach out and help strangers, who share their gifts and offer words of support and encouragement. Where shall we focus our attention? There is a quiet place within. It is as beautiful as a tree in full bloom and the sun setting in the west. It is as sweet as a baby's innocent giggle. We go there and embrace Spirit. We remove our attention from the distractions that would convince us the world is a dangerous place and remind ourselves that God is good and that people are expressions of divine love. Stay in this space and breath each holy breath. Be still and know the truth of Spirit. Be still. Be still.

Tuesday, July 19, 2016

Be Outrageous - Do the Impossible!!! Ideas that were once considered outrageous have become everyday events. The rule is that once a precedent has been set, strange though it may be, you have established a new norm. Helen Keller couldn’t see, hear and talk, yet she was one of the most fulfilled positive people of the 20th century. Steven Spielberg was a skinny, shy, unknown, mediocre student in high school and went on to become involved with five of the top ten grossing movies of all time. Oprah Winfrey grew up poor in an area where being African-American posed tremendous odds for achievement. Yet she became a popular talk-show host and a billionaire to boot. The same principle is true for each of us. Look back 10 years and consider the changes you have made in your life. Things you once considered outrageous are now part of your everyday existence. Big screen TVs, computers, electronic messaging, cell telephones, global positioning systems watching our “enemies” as well as tracking stolen cars, and a couple of years ago the stock market hit highs (and probably will again) that many thought to be incomprehensible. It is true, you can’t think too big. What was once considered a disabling flaw or handicap is navigated with innovation and imagination. Take this principle to heart. What is it that you want that once you considered a pure fantasy. In 1994 George Rickles lost both hands and most of his forearms in an accident that brought his carpentry career to a dramatic end. Rickles’ determination to return to carpentry led him to be fitted with prosthetic hooks. Then Volunteers for Medical Engineering designed tools and a special toolbox just for him. With patience Rickles’ proficiency with his beloved power tools proves to be promising. There is a process involved in manifesting dreams. It involves taking one step at a time and accomplishing each with an air of optimism and determination. The first step you take is the one facing you right now. That one will lead you to the next one and so on. What is your dream? Are you ready to take the first step? Enjoy! Much love! Jean