Monday, February 13, 2012

Become the Observer in Life

It has been said that we have two voices within us. The first one is the voice of truth. It comes to you subtly and offers suggestions. “Join that club.” “Go the new way to work today.” “Call that customer now.” “It is time to move to a new house or job.” “Study anthropology or journalism or whatever.” “Create your own business.”

When you follow the voice of truth your life is ever changing and you are continually growing. This inner voice will lead you down a path and, in time, you will discover, with delight, the answers to your desires plus the personal growth you require to appreciate this culmination.

The second voice is the voice of doubt and it will tell you things like, “Don’t join the club; you’re not good enough to do that.” “Stay on the same tried and true path. Change is scary.” “Don’t call the customer; put it off. He won’t buy anything anyway.” “Stay in the job. It is a sure thing.” “Stay in the house; moving to a new neighborhood is untenable.”

Whichever voice we listen to eventually gets louder. Sometimes we can no longer hear the other one. You can tell which voice you are listening to by noticing the quality of your life. Are you living a life of joy, freedom, expression? Or, does your life reflect fear, restriction, resignation, and the eternal quest for safety? Do you venture into discover and try new things or do you avoid change? One way evokes joy and expansion and the other fear and restriction.

One way to discover which voice you are listening to is to step back and become the observer. As you watch your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, you begin to recognize which voice motivates you. Then, without recrimination or guilt you can make adjustments.

Another way to say this is that we are motivated by two things: fear and desire. Desire comes from the voice of truth and fear emanates from the second voice, the voice of ego. When people set out to do things, they proceed with one or the other voice urging them on. Example: I will stop and get my car gassed up because I enjoy the freedom to be able to travel wherever I want and a full gas tank affords me that. Or, I will stop and fill my gas tank because I am afraid of running out of gas. The first statement reflects joy and expansion and the second fear.

The voice of fear also shows itself in resistance. We can resist moving forward. The idea is that we want to keep the status quo and stay where we are because we are comfortable right here. The problem with that is that the Universe does not stay put. There is always movement and change. In fact, change is the only constant in life. Thus when you resist life, you are not going with the flow, you are resisting it.

Thus the suggestion is to become the “watcher” or observer of your thoughts, feelings and behaviors and ask yourself “am I moving forward or resisting life?” Then decide for yourself which is the best approach for you.

Sunday, January 29, 2012

Breaking down Barriers

Pilot, Chuck Yaeger broke the sound barrier in his experimental bell X-1 plane in October, 1947. When he landed his plane, reporters asked him what it was like to be the first man to break the sound barrier. Yaeger replied that just before the barrier was broken, his plane experienced loud noise and violet shaking. After, there was an eerie quiet.

This description made me realize that whenever we are breaking a barrier in our lives, the preceding sense of chaos (shaking of our world) can be experienced as scary or a prelude to the fact that we are breaking into new, un-charted territory. Can you look back in your life and recognize this change point? Did you address it with awe or fear or maybe a bit of each?

When we ask for something new to manifest in our lives, we are, in effect, breaking into new territory or from our frame of reference breaking our own sound barrier. No doubt we might experience chaos before the dawn breaks into new life. You are leaving behind the old to establish something new. Are you shaking on the inside? If it seems like chaos, it could be a sign that it is working. That is when “staying- power” really counts. Or, do you run when the chaos begins?

It takes courage and willingness to stay with your process. Does the end result seem worth it? If not there is hesitancy. If what you are shooting for is unclear to you, then step back and ask yourself, what is this all about?

People come to me all the time wanting a new career or relationship experience. Often they don’t realize that when you want to break through an old barrier of doing things the way they have always been done, there is a certain soul-searching requirement at hand.

What is it you truly want – greater expression, freedom, connection, peace or joy? Decide ahead of time what it is you seek. This will give you the vision and supply the determination to keep going. Any time you are breaking through a barrier, you are entering the unknown. (It is unknown territory to you.) Are you ready; is your vision clear; do you really want this? If you answer in the affirmative, you just might be ready to proceed.

Sunday, January 22, 2012

Humor Lightens Burdens

Humor Lightens Burdens
There is almost nothing more indispensable, when dealing with people, than humor. Having humor doesn’t particularly mean cracking jokes. Humor is the ability to experience setbacks, yet comprehend that that the world has not come to an end.

When you don’t take yourself or your situation too seriously, you’ll do better in any and all endeavors. There is always something (in every situation) to laugh about. Often it is YOU. A smiling, cheerful leader conveys more confidence and wins more cooperation than a negative, gloomy one.

When you maintain equilibrium, a sense of proportion and humor in a crisis it encourages others to trust and rely on you. Because they respect your calm, they ultimately demonstrate better performance, loyalty and appreciation.

Contributing calm is far better than adding energy to confusion. This can be as simple as willingness to hold a positive view and smiling.

Abraham Lincoln serves as a great example of leadership under pressure. In one tension filled moment he said, “Gentlemen, why don’t you laugh? With the fearful strain that is upon me night and day, if I did not laugh, I should die.” Like Lincoln, most of us have discovered, humor is the way to relieve stress.

Even though some problems are serious, it doesn’t help to exaggerate their implications. Take yourself and the world a bit more lightly and not only will your circumstances improve, but you’ll have more to be happy about. The saying is: “The two hardest things to handle in life are failure and success.” Both are easier managed with humor.

The happiest people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything. There is a Buddhist saying, “Laughter is the language of the Gods.”

Poet and essayist, W. H. Auden, alleged “Among those whom I like or admire, I can find no common denominator, but among those whom I love, I can: All of them make me laugh.”

Sunday, January 15, 2012

Every experience is a blessing!

Many people are confused about compassion. They get it mixed up with feeling sorry for someone. Actually compassion is much bigger than that. It is a spiritual principle that allows us to identify with our Source-God.

Scientist and workshop leader, Gregg Braden, tells a story that came directly out of the newly discovered Essence scrolls. It relates a story concerning Jesus traveling to a small village where he was approached by a woman who had experienced leprosy all her life. In fact, she had leprosy prior to birth, while in the womb.

She asked Jesus to help her. She pleaded, “I have never had a friend or a man or even a pet because I am so ugly. Please release me from this condition.”

As the story goes Jesus responded with two questions. “Do you believe in me and the Father that sent me?” She relied that she did. The next question was “What have you learned from your disease?”

To this query she became upset. “I haven’t learned anything from it. I haven’t had a friend, a man, or a pet because I am so repulsive. I have been unloved because of this disease.”

With that Jesus replied that he could not heal her because she had not received the blessing from her illness. In this instance, he was responding with compassion. Without learning froman experience, you are doomed to repeat it.

We are here to learn from every experience. When you choose to be a victim of circumstances instead of learning from and through them, you have not completed the experience. The lesson has not been learned. You are essentially relegating yourself to repeat it until you “get it.”

We often see this with people who marry the same spouse (in different forms) repeatedly. Or when you move into a job situation where the same tyrannical boss resides (in different forms) or you continue to feel unappreciated in various circumstances.

What you might ask is what could one learn from having a debilitating disease like leprosy? It would seem that there are many opportunities to learn. One important lesson would be to not judge by appearances or to offer love to any and all people regardless of circumstances. Perhaps it is to recognize when you have allowed yourself to be a victim rather than a victor. Could we use our circumstances to become an advocate for others?

It has been proven that when a person lives life from the point of view and energy of love, his total body chemistry changes, his immune system strengthens, his physical-mental-emotional condition alters and healing is expedited.

Perhaps this story helps us understand that we don’t need to operate from the polarity thinking of good and bad, right and wrong, but to recognize that there are gifts in every experience. What are the blessings in your experience?

Thursday, January 5, 2012

Looking Back to See Ahead Clearly: Processing 2011

At the end of a year and the beginning of another, it is a great time to look back and process your experience. Our goal here is to move ahead with clarity and gratitude and insure a new year of progress, joy, enlightenment, abundance and health. In that vein let us take time to consider the past year.

As we process the theme, lessons, and opportunities from 2011, we will be prepared to receive the gift of 2012. Answer the following questions, to process your year.

1. What did 2011 mean to you? What did you see as the predominant theme throughout the year? What experiences were most important and meaningful for you and how did they shape you? (What did you learn and how did you change?)

A. Predominant theme throughout the year was
B. Most important events, experiences were
C. What did you learn; how did you change?
D. What do your current lessons look like? (What are they?)
E. How did these experiences and lessons shape you? (What did you learn and how did you change?

2. What do you want to experience in 2010? (Experiences, desires, dreams, etc.) (These statements will determine your lessons and opportunities.)

3. What steps/goals will I need to commit myself to in order to achieve the above (2)? (This can be your resolutions or commitments to your self for the year.)

4. Your purpose in wanting the above (2) is

5. Appreciation of past experiences, opportunities and lessons puts them in perspective and also allow you to be open to the next situation, opportunity, and lesson. With this in mind, what do you most appreciate about your experiences in the past year?

6. Is there anything that you need to do to put closure to the year and be ready for a new year of exciting, grow-oriented, opportunity?
Anything else you need to add….

Resolution means to resolve or promise. Resolutions for the new year can work for you if you establish a bigger picture of why you want them By keeping in touch with your growth through the years, you can, with lucidity, calculate future steps. Then, as you maintain purpose, your resolutions become promises or commitments to yourself. and thus are easier to remember and keep.

Appreciation is a big part of growth. It paves the way for positive experiences. Without occasionally looking back, it’s hard to know where you’ve been or where you’re going. Do this with joy, acceptance, and appreciation.

Sunday, January 1, 2012

The Reason for the Season

This is a story originally appearing in Woman’s Day Magazine in 1982 by Nancy Gavin. It portrays perfectly the spirit of the season.

It's just a small, white envelope stuck among the branches of our Christmas tree. No name, no identification, no inscription. It has peeked through the branches of our tree for the past 10 years or so.

It all began because my husband Mike hated Christmas – oh, not the true meaning of Christmas, but the commercial aspects of it --- overspending, the frantic running around at the last minute to get a tie for Uncle Harry and the dusting powder for Grandma, the gifts given in desperation because you couldn't think of anything else.

Knowing he felt this way, I decided one year to bypass the usual shirts, sweaters, ties and so forth. I reached for something special just for Mike. The inspiration came in an unusual way.

Our 12 year old son Kevin was wrestling in a non-league match at the school he attended shortly before Christmas. The other team was sponsored by an inner-city church.

These youngsters, dressed in sneakers so ragged that shoestrings seemed to be the only thing holding them together, presented a sharp contrast to our boys in their spiffy blue and gold uniforms and sparkling new wrestling shoes.

As the match began, I was alarmed to see that the other team was wrestling without headgear, a kind of light helmet designed to protect a wrestler's ears.

It was obviously a luxury the ragtag team could not afford. Well, we ended up walloping them. We took every weight class. And as each of their boys got up from the mat, he swaggered around with false bravado, a kind of street pride, unable to acknowledge defeat.

Mike, seated beside me, shook his head sadly, "I wish just one of them could have won," he said. "They have a lot of potential, but losing like this could take the heart right out of them."

Mike loved kids-all kids-and he knew them, having coached little league football, baseball and lacrosse. That's when the idea for his present came.

That afternoon, I went to a local sporting goods store and bought an assortment of wrestling headgear and shoes and sent them anonymously to the inner-city church.

On Christmas Eve, I placed the envelope on the tree, the note inside telling Mike what I had done and that this was his gift from me.
His smile was the brightest thing about Christmas that year and in succeeding years.

For each Christmas, I followed the tradition – one year sending a group of mentally handicapped youngsters to a hockey game, another year a check to a pair of elderly brothers whose home had burned to the ground the week before Christmas, and on and on.

The envelope became the highlight of our Christmas. It was always the last thing opened on Christmas morning and our children, ignoring their new toys, would stand with wide-eyed anticipation as their dad lifted the envelope from the tree to reveal it's contents.

As the children grew, the toys gave way to more practical presents, but the envelope never lost its allure. The story doesn't end there.
You see, we lost Mike last year due to dreaded cancer. When Christmas rolled around, I was still so wrapped in grief that I barely got the tree up. But Christmas Eve found me placing an envelope on the tree, and in the morning, it was joined by three more. Each of our children, unbeknownst to the others, had placed an envelope on the tree for their dad.

The tradition has grown and someday will expand even further with our grandchildren standing around the tree with wide-eyed anticipation watching as their fathers take down the envelope. Mike's spirit, like the Christmas spirit, will always be with us.

May we all remember each other, and the Real reason for the season, and God's true Spirit this year and always.

Sunday, December 18, 2011

The Truth about 2012

Have you heard the rumors concerning the Mayan calendar that the end of the world is coming in December, 2012? You know -- destruction of the earth, cataclysmic changes, a choice point which holds the potential for annihilation or spiritual transformation. In scientist-author, Gregg Braden’s work, “science has gathered extraordinary knowledge that he calls the new ‘deep truth.’“ I follow with a quote from Braden. “According to the Maya, we are living the last days of a rare, mysterious cycle of time. We are in a 5,125-year-long cycle, which is precisely 2,872,000 days, and we are ending the fifth in a series of five cycles. Our current cycle began on August 11, of 3114 BC. The Maya were able to determine that the cycle would end on the Winter Solstice, 2012, which marked the end of the Maya calendars that traced the cycles.

They also identified a thirty six-year window between 1980 and 2016 as a time when humanity wouldn’t recognize its way of life, itself, or the land. The Maya knew that the Earth’s location in space changes on a cyclic basis over long periods of time and that as Earth’s orbit, tilt, wobble, and angle change in space as it relates to our sun, it changes the physical parameters of life on Earth. The climate changes and when the climate changes, the weather changes. When weather changes, so does our water supply along with how and when we grow our food. This, in turn, affects how we trade and share global resources. How we move upon the Earth changes when the Earth changes. All of this the Maya knew.”

That brings up to the choice point we face today. Do we attempt to continue old, unsustainable ways of life that are no longer effective, or are we willing to accept that what serves us once, no longer does, and move on to new sustainable methods of sharing resources and relating to each other?
The Maya and other ancestors knew that this 2012 cycle would be the time of making these choices and formulating an amazing shift in the way we think of ourselves and our world. They never indicated this time as the end of the world, but the end of a cycle.

On a universal scale, the Wise-Ones and Shamans of Tibet, Indians of the Southwest desert, Peru, and Bolivia predicted the same period of time for the same change. Furthermore they agreed that there are two potential outcomes: one based on fate (what will happen if we choose to do nothing), the other on destiny. Our destiny is not just to survive but to build a bridge to a new way of being.

In the time since these predictions, science has come to know that we are living in a field of energy that connects all things, and that we continually communicate with that matrix of energy. Science also indicates that it is clear that the magnitude of today’s challenges suggest that we have important choices to make to construct this bridge to a new life, greater awareness, and a new global culture. We do this by making higher choices. Cooperation and mutual aid benefits everyone - individuals, families, communities and nations. As our focus adjusts to these values, competition and the pursuant violence disappear.

The Universal truth is that everything exists for the harmonious good of every other part. Thus as we make everyday choices to begin the paradigm shift from fear to LOVE, from conflict to PEACE, from competition to cooperation, and from doubt to faith, we build our bridge individually and, in time, we build it globally. We must be the generation that evolves from a sense of lack and limitation and embraces the life-affirming principle of welcoming diversity of ideas, cultures, art, music, science and beliefs. It starts with spiritual practice – individually and collectively. Through our pursuance of Higher realization we are led to a new and greater experience of cooperation and love.

There are passages quoted from the Science of Mind Magazine, December 2011 edition.
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