Tuesday, November 6, 2018

The Universal Law of Gratitude

The Universal Law of Gratitude The law of gratitude dictates that you value your current job position and customers. By doing this, new opportunities and customers readily present themselves. Gratitude is a law of nature. When we accept and are at peace with our circumstances, things begin to change naturally, easily. Sincere gratitude sows the seeds that blossom in abundance. It is a principle of nature and it is magnetic. When people feel acknowledged and appreciated, they more readily acknowledge and appreciate you. When you are grateful for all you have experienced and achieved, even the bad stuff, your life expands. Your understanding that hardship and challenge build the characteristics of strength and leadership becomes apparent. You need these qualities to achieve whatever goal you desire. There is a science to gratitude. As you explore the energy of gratitude, you will discover a great law of prosperity. When you genuinely feel grateful, your energy rises and expands. It aligns with your Divinity. It connects you to God. You can even feel it. Think of something or someone for which you are grateful. Notice the feeling in your body as you do this. It feels light and expanded. Now consider someone or something for which you feel annoyed, angry, resentful, or critical. You will notice your body shifting to a restricted state. The energy is tight. It might even burn because anger is inflamed energy. Be sure to bring yourself back to gratitude. As you observe more and more, your choice will be gratitude. You have the ability and responsibility to choose where you place your mind. You must develop the discipline to keep it focused on where you want it to be. That means what outcome do you desire. The mind has no choice but to abide by your wishes. For the most part, people do not recognize that they have this ability. This kind of mental training alters the projector of your life. As your projector changes, your life follows suit. Be willing to train your thoughts, and you will find the benefits astounding. When you generate thoughts of gratefulness, it is equivalent to having all ready received. Gratitude for having already received your desire immediately magnetizes the energy needed to manifest it in your space-time reality. The Quantum Field of energy, that in which we live, breath, and have our being, receives the impressions of your thoughts. As stated earlier, it is mutable, like Silly Putty. It automatically assumes the shape, intensity, and quality of your thoughts. In other words, your thoughts are a template for this mutable energy to take form. Magnetic thoughts of gratitude expand energy and bring more of what you appreciate to you. Have you ever wondered what your true capabilities are? According to philosopher, Goethe, “Whatever you can do or dream you can begin it. Boldness has genius, magic and power in it. Begin it now.” Jean Walters is a best selling author of Be Outrageous: Do the Impossible - Others have and you can too!, Set Yourself Free: Live the Life YOU were meant to Live, and Dreams and the Symbology of Life - all available on Amazon.com You can reach her at jean@spiritualtransformation.com or 314 991 8439

Monday, October 29, 2018

How to Switch off Negative Chatter and Have More Fun!!!

Most people have been handed a lot of negativity as they grew up. The grown up (parents, teachers, television, everybody), not knowing the detrimental effects of put-downs or criticism, and being frustrated in their own lives, often and unknowingly, projected their own programmed fear to their children. “Are you ever going to get it right?” “What’s wrong with you?” “How could you be so stupid?” Or it could be subtle – a disappointed sigh or disdainful look. (You: Oh, I let them down again! I’m not good enough.) After a bit, we internalize the criticism and they don’t have to say a word because the negative “program” is imprinted in our minds and it becomes a default button when things go badly. At this point, the program has become a neural pathway in your brain and presents as habitual negative chatter. The question is: What to do about it? The answer is to reframe your limiting beliefs. Here are some steps to do that. First: recognize when you have negative chatter. That can be as easy as noticing how you feel. If you feel angry, resentful, victimized, even bored, you have negative chatter. Then notice your body. Where are you feeling tight? Clenched jaw, teeth grinding, knot in your stomach, lump in your throat, making a fist, tight shoulders or back? Your body never lies and it will always reveal your thoughts. Then, focus on one tight area and ask yourself, what have I been saying to myself? Do this as you release the tension. A great way to get in touch with your tension is to write about it. When you focus on your rigid jaw and ask yourself, what have I been thinking? Your brain dump can be, “I’m mad that I didn’t get the promotion at work. Or, I feel ignored at parties. I think I got a raw deal with something.” Brain dumping on paper is a great way to release negativity. You can keep a brain dump journal. When you have fully expunged the negativity, create a little ritual of tearing up the paper or throwing it in the fireplace. Some people go so far as to bury it. Your choice! The next step is where things get interesting because it involves two parts. Part one is actually confronting the negativity straight on. For instance, “I always get passed over for promotion” or “things never turn out well for me” is addressed with a question – is that true? It is up to you to come up with evidence of validity. And, if you do find legitimate proof, the next question is, “why have I chosen to direct my life that way?” Now you are moving into “victim” territory. Living with victim mentality is highly destructive because you have set a life course for disaster and unhappiness. Truth: Victims are NEVER happy and they are very often attached to their victim whoa is me life. It can be their claim to fame. I have actually seen people exit a positive, uplifting talk or workshop and immediately look for someone to tell their “victim” story. That person needs a hobby. You get the point. Once you have confronted your “story,” the second step is to make up a new one. Whereas the first part of the process is a brain dump, this part is a brain shift. You literally have to shift your mind to a positive possibility. If you don’t’ do this, your mind automatically defaults to our old negative position. That is because you have invested many years into the “poor me” scenario. Thus your new story will need a fair amount of reinforcement to become a neural pathway. Therefore, if your old rendition is, “I’m not good enough,” start your new tune with, “ I am more than good enough.” Think about your positive attributes such as kindness, gentleness, patience, generosity, being a good listening, keeping your word. (Everyone has positive qualities.) Follow that with what life looks and feels like to be more than good enough. Example: “people love to hang out with me.” Visualize people inviting you to hang out and laughing and having fun together. Visualize an active social life. Or, visualize people asking you for feedback or assistance at work and how good it feels to help them out and how much they appreciate you. Another example: “Things never go my way.” First step find the evidence. Is this a true statement? Why do I want to hold on this idea? What do I want my new story to be? Visualize a new scenario – serendipitous things happening all the time. People give you the right of way, you buy one item and receive two because today we have a special. Compliments fly at you from everyone! You get the idea. The next very important step is to ask yourself if you really want this new positive life and if so, why? It is vital to have positive motivation to keep yourself moving. If your intent to change is not solid, you will put out a half-hearted effort and then say the process doesn’t work. Truth: it only works if you work it. If you receive a lot of rewards for having a sad story, you may not be ready to change. Answer truthfully, are you ready to release negative chatter and move to a more joyful experience? Here is a summary of the process: · Recognize the negative chatter. Notice it. · Feel the negative energy and determine where the tension is in your body. · Challenge the negative chatter. Is it true? What is the truth? · Decide if you want to keep the “poor me” story going forward or create a new one. · Design a new story with positive feelings and affirming thoughts. · I’m adding a bonus step – be grateful. Grateful you noticed the negative chatter, you challenged it, and you are creating and experiencing a new outcome. Do this over and over until it becomes your default process and soon the negative chatter will be gone and your life is brighter and you are happy. Comedian Groucho Marx must have gone through this process because these were his thoughts about starting his day. “Each morning when I open my eyes, I say to myself, ‘I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead; tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it.” Jean Walters is a best-selling author, Transformational Coach, Akashic Record Reader. You can reach her at jean@spiritualtransformaitona.com or 314 991 8439. Website: www.spiritualtransformation.com

Thursday, October 18, 2018

It never hurts to ask!!

Have you ever blocked yourself from going for what you really desired because it seemed too outrageous to attempt? Or has the fear of looking stupid, even though the opportunity was ripe, kept you from asking for what you want? If so, keep reading. There is an inventive fifth grade-writing teacher in Michigan who has helped his students get over these hurdles early in life. One of his class assignments is to write to local businesses and make “outlandish” requests. The teacher’s primary intention in making this assignment is to encourage students to make letter-writing fun. So, in addition to making the outlandish request, his students are to tell something personal about themselves and explain their project. The strange and interesting thing is that the kids usually get what they have asked for. Some of the requests from businesses that have been granted include a month’s supply of chocolate milk and a lifetime supply of french-fries. Thus besides providing the students with an inventive, fun writing assignment, the teacher contributes hands-on experience in one of life’s important lessons. That no matter how outrageous you might perceive your wishes to be, you might as well ask as you just might receive the very thing you desire. It never hurts to ask! What is it you want to ask for? Often we feel we must ask a specific person or business to fulfill our desire, but the truth is that you can go straight to the Universe. We live in a quantum field of energy that is ever ready to receive your request. Much like a shipping clerk that processes orders as they arrive, the Universe unequivocally, non-judgmentally, and unconditionally fills your requests whether they are positive or negative. That means if you are continuously thinking of getting sick, it processes that as an order. Or, if you are concentrated on experiencing joy in every aspect ofv life, it unerringly provides that opportunity. If you were placing an order on-line – Amazon.com for instance – you would be responsible for ordering the exact item you wanted. If you placed an order for a different book or shirt than the one you desire, that is what you will get. Thus, the concept of being clear and definite in your desire is relevant. Often, when I ask people what they want, they tell me “I don’t want to work long hours, and I don’t want a demanding boss.” It can be a bit like pulling hair to get some folks to confess, “what I want is to work three days a week and have a positive work community.” Whew, now was that hard? I think the resistance comes from the idea that it is not okay to ask for help or to want at all. Yet, nothing happens until you get clear on your desire. So, what do you want? Can you state it in clear terms so that a shipping clerk will know exactly what to send your way? “I want a lovely, fun-filled vacation in Hawaii.” “I choose a healthy, vibrant body that exudes well-being.” “I decree abundant creativity as I take on my next project.” “I choose fun, laughter, and joy as I journey forth in each day.” See it is not so hard. What do you want? Jean Walters is a best-selling author, Transformational Coach, Akashic Record Reader. You can reach her at jean@spiritualtransformaitona.com or 314 991 8439. Website: www.spiritualtransformation.com

Thursday, October 11, 2018

Get Your Ego Out of the Way to Succeed BIG

Excellence is an art won by training and habituation. We do not act rightly because we have virtue or excellence, but rather we have those because we have acted rightly. We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit. Aristotle We can often do more for others by trying to correct our own faults than by trying to correct theirs. Francois Fenelo In our fear-based world there are many rules. Most of these are designed around the idea of survival. The interesting thing is that no one is going to survive. Nevertheless our instruction is to focus on the future, plan for it, and save for it. There is nothing inherently wrong with putting money aside and not spending every penny you make on sensory gratification (cars, costumes, accruements, chocolate). What is wrong is the continual focus on the future that keeps you from being present NOW. ure, if there is one, comes out of the present. What you do, think, and act on today will extend into tomorrow. But often by making the future the goal, we don’t invest in the present - our own state of affairs – what we are doing, accepting, and believing right now. This article is called get your ego out of the way for a reason. It is your egoic self (personality and sense of separateness from everyone and everything else) that has adopted a set of beliefs that keeps you focused in the past (guilt, remorse, why did I do that, say that, etcetera) and in the future (what if this or that happens) which, more than likely, will never happen anyway. Either way you are not present NOW. Thus we do our tribal planning for the traditional life - safe, comfortable, normal, not necessarily innovative, expansive or love-focused. People become entranced with their tribal traditions. (This could mean Germans do this, Italians believe that. Latinos follow these customs and Aborigines follow those. Some dance at funerals, while other are somber. Some groups believe you are to put food out for the dead, and others rotate crops in a particular way, or celebrate when the rain comes. Some might worship a rock and others believe it is important to sacrifice a goat to insure prosperity. These are tribal customs and beliefs. Man made them up; God did not. Every person has a dream. Something in their soul – a desire, an image, a hunch, a special interest, that is the key to their soul’s desire. But many are afraid to give it credence because it doesn’t fit the society norm r expectations of the traditional life – college, marriage, buy a home, children, good job, 401K, pension, retirement, die. We laud people who put their children first and deny their own happiness without realizing what consequences that particular model sets up for the kids. (Either entitlement or continued sacrifice.) Thus the pattern continues and the tribe expands and the beliefs get stronger. Then someone, a maverick perhaps, steps out of the tribal circle and says, I choose to go my own way and follow my dream. So he skips college, digs into his interest, perhaps starts a business, invents something, becomes an artist or musician, or nomad, develops a product, or innovates in some way. He begins his soul journey. This is a precarious position because when he changes the norms, he gets to deal with the ego and all its judgments. In other words, the maverick (or you) better stay strong, focused, and undeterred. Here is how it works. Your Inner Guide (Soul, Spirit, the Universe, God) is not happenstance. To be sure, you are not given a desire without also having the inherent talent and ability to fulfill it. Thus in stepping from the tribal group, and getting ready to be outrageous, you must be ready to take Spirit as your partner. It is your friend, comfort, and stability. This means that you as this innovative maverick no longer needs to heed useless traditional thinking and beliefs that serve no purpose or benefit anyone. That’s right – no more goat sacrifices and you can rotate the crops whatever way makes sense to you. Now, the independent maverick can give full focus to the urgings of the soul. That is when anything is possible. Authors, Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hanson’s book, Chicken Soup for the Soul was rejected 144 times before a publisher finally read it, loved it, and published it. They did not doubt their vision or determination to get their book published. Their idea was to sell over a million copies by the second year of publication. They held no limitation as to its popularity. As it happened, Chicken Soup for the Soul was re-written into 149 variations and sold all over the world. It ultimately became a billion dollar industry. Yet they were told NO a lot. Another incredibly popular book, Jonathan Livingston Seagull by Richard Bach went through the same process. It was rejected numerous times and finally published to become a New York Times Bestseller for many weeks. Many years later it is still a well-read book about living your dream. The issue, as you can imagine, is that visionaries create and often it is the traditional folks with their eye on the bottom line, who make the decisions. Yet, with persistence, someone gets the message and is willing to invest. We are continually faced with decisions large and small. All are important because they set you up for fulfilling your dream and your purpose in life. Think of each as another step along your journey. Marissa worked at a corporation for 30 years. This company had been bought and sold several times and with each new management team the corporate environment got darker, more demanding, and more negative. Because Marissa was a loyal person, took pride in her work, and wanted to stay at the company until she retired, she stayed and stayed and accommodated every change and each new leader until she finally broke under the pressure and quit her job. For over 30 years Marissa had practically walked on water to get her job done. She had become a human dynamo with accrued skills, talents, resources, and a huge database of associates all available for her own use. Yet, because she had stayed so long and was so loyal to them instead of herself, she had sacrificed her health and her energy and spirit was depleted. After about a year away from the turmoil, Marissa was feeling stronger, healthier and beginning to retrieve her energy. This is when she began playing around developing a logo and idea for a small business. She wanted to help people create ease and beauty in their homes and lives. It was to be a service business providing assistance with gardening, party planning, sprucing up people’s homes, getting organized, and other such things. Her timing was impeccable and the concept had incredible potential. The problem was that Marissa saw it only as a nice little side business while she envisioned herself as an employee working in another corporation and continuing to fund her 401K. Marissa had programmed her mind to be at the mercy of employers when she had the skills to be an entrepreneur. Another problem was that Marissa was smarter, savvier, and more talented than the requirement of the positions she sought. She no longer fit in to those jobs. Her tribal beliefs were: you work hard for someone else, put others first, pay off your house, and put money away and some day you will get to live. In other words, her attention was focused on everyone and everything other than herself and definitely not in the present moment. Marissa was so locked into traditional thinking, she did not even realize that she had a dream – her own business – and she also had the tools and resources to make it successful. When I saw her, she was devastated that she had failed at finding a new corporate job and she was mortified that she had been unable to fund her retirement for a whole year. In her mind, she was a failure! Marissa lived in the future in “good girl” mentality – in the ego. She had to step out of her grief to see the bigger picture. In her life she had asked for guidance from God, Jesus, and all things spiritual. Yet, when the guidance came she could not recognize it because it did not fit her picture. What she was really asking for was guidance to continue in her traditional way. Guess what, God/ the Universe does not hold man’s traditions sacred. It is not the way Spirit works. You want help – here is help. That job is not for you; nor that one, or that one. All was not gloom and doom in that there were people waiting to help Marissa. She had to get her pride (ego) out of the way. Finally she woke up to the understanding that God/ Spirit/ Universe had been assisting her all along the way. She had received answers to her prayers. She had created the dream, the resources and the customer base to manifest a wildly successful business and have a blast doing it. She finally got to work for someone who could and would appreciate her expertise – herself. The moral of the story is God has Its own solutions and ways of helping. Don’t go to God and declare I want this and it has to happen this way and with that person. Because you just might hear giant peals of laughter rolling through the heavens. Bottom line: God’s way is a better way. Get your ego out of the way. Jean Walters is a best selling author, Transformational Coach, and Akashic Reader. You can reach her at jean@spiritualtransformation.com or 314 991 8439. Have a great day!

Thursday, October 4, 2018

Discover Your Limits

Have you ever wondered what your true capabilities are? According to philosopher, Goethe, “Whatever you can do or dream you can begin it. Boldness has genius, magic and power in it. Begin it now.” Often, we are taught to play it safe. Don’t risk failure. Take the easy route. Do what you’ve always done. Yet no one discusses the risk you take by playing it safe. The biggest risk in playing it safe is that you stay small and mediocre. Yet there is something within everyone that wants more. You know that children feel this desire to stretch their potential when you observe their incessant curiosity and sense of adventure. They explore the world with abandon. “I wonder what’s on that top shelf.” They speculate what it is like to climb to the top of the tree and then they climb it. They marvel at the intricacies of a new game or adventure and then they jump into it. They consider momentarily what the new kid in the neighborhood might be like and then rush off to invite him to “ride bicycles, or play ball.” They ponder an idea and then enthusiastically take action. Embracing new sights, places, opportunities and friends is how children expand their worlds. As the process unfolds, they take on bigger challenges and tackle larger obstacles. And we encourage and applaud them. Why don’t we do the same with ourselves. After all, this process of discovery is how a person realizes the extent of his capabilities. It is not by shrinking from challenges, but by taking them on. We push farther, go over the next hill, learn a new skill, try on a new experience. It is the way all advances are made in the world. As we enter that which is not known, we open ourselves to possibilities and discoveries that we may never have considered. So, what is your next adventure? What would you like to learn next? The worst possibility is that you decide you don’t care for the new restaurant or sport; the best is that you open to a new part of yourself you never before knew existed. Either way, you win! “We only learn our limits by going beyond them.” Anonymous Jean Walters is a Transformational Coach, Akashic Reader, Best Selling Author, and teacher of Personal Development classes. You can reach her at jean@spiritualtransformation.com or 314 991 8439 website: http://www.spiritualtransformation.com

Thursday, September 13, 2018

The Power of Focus - How to Move Mountains

Is it time to make changes… to shift your focus? Perhaps you need a larger picture, and the confidence to do what needs to be done no matter what. The process is transformative. Much like the caterpillar spinning a chrysalis to prepare for new life in the form of a butterfly, you are about to return to the memory of innocence, when life was fascinating and everything possible. It is your pure state of spiritual connection and knowing. It is the beginning. Babies find life fascinating. Every color and shape draws delighted smiles and coos – sometimes even screams of delight. As they grow, babies scramble to discover what hides in the wastebasket or on top of the shelf. They climb with abandon, seeking the next fascination. Hands in soap, mud or spit up – it is all the same -- a texture to explore or taste. They listen, touch, taste and smell. It is their process. They are unconfined by convention. Nor are they littered with mental constructs of limitation and fear. The inner need to discover, experiment, and experience is the freedom of the soul and this drive is alive within you as well. Returning to Spiritual freedom is our quest! As we develop, we learn through play. Children know how to play. They jump out of bed and know just what to do. Whether it is to challenge their friend to a game of skipping pebbles across the pond, or build a fort, or climb a tree, they are driven to adventure and their minds are open for what comes next. Children are beautiful, uncluttered, innocent and without knowledge. Yet, excited and willing to learn. They are shameless and guiltless in their urge for discovery. Before a child is programmed with the need for specific results, they approach life as a grand vista of opportunity – an adventure. What happens to dissuade this desire to venture into the unknown? What happens to daunt the spirit of curiosity? How did we forget to ask: What lies over the next hill? How do I get there? When do we lose the desire to enter the unidentified, and become enamored instead with the concept of safety? How did we buy into the idea of building some sort of kingdom to hide in and imagine life as a dangerous foe to battle and resist? So we ask, what is the way to relearn what it is to live expansively in the way of a child and open to the magic of curiosity, optimism and possibility? This is what we seek as we explore practices and techniques to achieve mastery, knowing, and connection. Directing your powerful mind is the key and the most important element in constructing this skill of on-going, never-failing connection. Your mind has the power to move mountains. When Jesus instructed his followers to have faith the size of a mustard seed, he meant to have focused mental control so that when you fix on a goal, you are assured of achieving it. When you set this resolve, the field of energy in which you live (the Quantum Field) has no alternative but to do your bidding. That means when you set your focus on limitation, it follows your bidding unerringly. Thus, whatever you focus on (positive or negative), you will achieve. What is it you truly want? On what are you willing to maintain focus? Jean Walters is a Transformational Coach, Akashic Reader, Best Selling Author, and Speaker. To get her newsletter sign up at http://www.spiritualtransformation.com or jean@spiritualtransformation.com or 314 991 8439

Wednesday, September 12, 2018

Blog: Is this enough for me? (Tranformational Story) Dweisi Mfume appeared to be an ordinary child when, at eleven, his step dad, abandoned the family. Then when he was sixteen, his mother died of cancer. That is when his life spun out of control. Mfume quit school and went to work to help support his sisters. He worked as many as three jobs in a single week. He also began started hanging out on street corners drinking with friends. “I ran with the worst people and I became the leader, he recalled in U.S. News and World Report, "I was even locked up a couple of times on suspicion of theft because I happened to be young and black. And before I knew it, I was a teenage parent, not once but five times." Yet Mfume's life took a radica turn on a July night in the late 1960s. He had been drinking with his friends when suddenly he began to feel strange. "People were standing around playing dice and everything else, and something just came over me," he remembered. "I said, 'I can't live like this anymore.' And I walked away." Mfume spent the rest of the night in prayer. That is when his new life began and he proceeded to earn his high school diploma and pursue a college degree. Mfume went on to earn a graduate degree from John Hopkins University. Then he was elected to the Baltimore City Council, and then Congress. As a congressman, Mfume became one of the most well known African American politicians in Washington, DC. His next position was president of the NAACP. Kweisi Mfume.was the name he adopted in the early 1970s in an effort to connect with his African roots. His Aunt had traveled to Ghana and suggested the name. It is a phrase that translates as “conquering son of kings.” Mfume's story is your story and my story. No matter what our beginnings, we have within us a conqueror, not of people, but of ourselves. At some point, we must ask, “Is this enough? Am I fulfilling my destiny? And, like Mfume, we may decide to alter our identity and take a new path in order to do it. The question is: Is this enough? You have the answer. Jean Walters is a tranformational coach and Akashic Reader for 40 years. She is author of best selling book: Be Outrageous: Do the Impossible - Others have and you can too! Also Dreams and the Symbology of Life (workbook for interpreting your dreams) by Jean Walters-Lucy You an reach her at 314 991 8439 or jean@spiritualtransformation.com
My Trip to John of God Martin Luther King Jr. said he went to the top of the mountain and saw the glory and was changed. In a similar way I went to the Casa Dom Inacio in Brazil and experienced life as it is supposed to be. It was also transformational. The Casa (house), which is located in Abadiania, Brazil, is home to Joao de Deus (John of God) an internationally renowned spiritual healer. It is Joao and his many tireless volunteers’ purpose to bring healing to the masses and this is accomplished each week on Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday. It is on those days that thousands of people from all over the world arrive at the Casa. They seek respite from mental, emotional, and physical pain, confusion, addiction, illness and disease (cancer, tumors, headaches, paralysis and so on). My visit was in July 2018. My objective in going to the Casa was to deepen my spiritual connection and experience. The result was a shift in awareness that occurred almost immediately upon entering the serenity of the Casa grounds. It was like entering a cocoon of love where transcendence takes place, not unlike a caterpillar gestating to become a butterfly. Giving in to the process was easy, joyful and heartfelt. I was also taken back as I viewed hundreds of people, children and babies quietly waiting their turn to be in front of the healer. Peace was in the air. There were no harsh words, impatience, or dissension anywhere or in anyone. People moved quietly while dozens, perhaps a hundred, others sat in meditation. The mediums and meditators provided an important service for they established a high vibrational energy current that allowed the entities that incorporate in to John of God to do their healing work. These entities are previously incarned exalted masters, teachers, and healers. (Saint Germain, Dr. Augusto Almeida, Jesus, Saint Francis of Assisi, King Solomon, Dom Inacio, and others. Approximately 60 in number.) Their energy vibration is high and the meditators support Medium Joao’s ability to maintain their incorporation. The energy throughout the Casa and grounds is profoundly peaceful and loving. There are gardens and an overview where you can gaze out over the surrounding countryside. There are benches where dozens of people sit in reverie or meditation. With each day the crowd grew to thousands. Some were clearly afflicted, children with birth defects, and others weak with illness. Because of the high-energy vibration at the Casa, it felt like you were under a protective umbrella or a spell and there was but one purpose – love. I found it easy to give up pressing goals and schedules and relax in peace. What a huge contrast from the rush-rush of the western world. There was a special place to pray called a “prayer triangle” (the three sides of the triangle stood for faith, love, and charity). People lined up to pray there leaving behind written requests for assistance. This special triangle represents a portal to an inner dimension where spiritual help is readily available. The environment of pure unconditional love was stunning, amazing, and even a bit shocking. It was akin to glimpsing the world the way it is supposed to be and the way it would eventually evolve to become. Within the energetic environment, there were profound changes occurring beneath the surface. The folks that showed up with healing and prayer requests from countries around the world took their turn to go before the medium, John of God, and they received interventions. Some were healed immediately and others who were working through deep, layered issues took longer. All healings were accomplished with the willingness of the individual to do his part. That meant to own his part of the problem whether that be a negative attitude, unforgiveness, self-hatred, addiction, or whatever. The entities see deep into the soul of each person and know what must be done. Incorporation can be a few seconds or a few hours. The stream of people in line that go before the entity measures up to 2000-3000 in a day. Medium Joao has no judgment toward anyone and turns no one away. This means sometimes he works into the night. He is also uncompromising in not taking payment for the healings. He knows that all healing comes from God and his part if offering his body as a vehicle for transferring energy to the afflicted. The entity that is incorporated sees past, present, and future of each person. He recognizes the disharmony and its cause and the correction must take place on every level. In other words, the body displays symptoms that result from fear, wrong thinking, anger, past karma, or misunderstanding. For that reason healing must occur on all levels – mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical. The volunteer staff that keeps the operation flowing and smooth suggest you ask yourself, Why do you want to be at the casa? What brings you here? And are you willing to do your work – to let go of hatred, prejudices, jealousy, victimhood, self-pity – all the negative emotions and misunderstandings that have displaced the perfection of the physical body and shown up in illness, disease and paralysis. If you are willing to become an open slate (clear space) for the entities to work, healing occurs. Sometimes it takes more than one visit to reconstruct a deformed or diseased body just as it took a long time to create such a disability. All illness, emotional upset, even spirit possession starts from erroneous thought. People then attempt to heal the physical manifestation without even dealing with its cause. That is why cancer can be healed physically and it returns. Its mental-emotional origin has never been dealt with. As you approach, the entities know who you are energetically, what you have experienced, and what you must do now. Because true healing occurs at deep levels of consciousness, I personally went through a variety of physical symptoms. At times I was quite ill. Yet through the experience I felt myself passing through many doors as I processed the changes occurring in my inner world. It was a bit of a crash course of awareness – the fast track, if you will. I was prepared for these changes. I wanted them. I had been doing research, and spiritual work, readings and even some mediumship for decades. So, I knew that I was being rebuilt from the inside out. I wondered how others who had not had the same exposure managed but I knew the entities work with each person individually for who he is and his level of understanding. That is what unconditional love is all about. My experience was a manifestation of my desire to grow to deepest spiritual connection with God. During the two weeks I spent in Abadiania, I felt my self being reconstructed. This awareness was confirmed with a vision prior to my departure to return home to St. Louis. My vision was of me unzipping and stepping out of my old self and into a new self. I was thrilled, as I knew it meant that I had accomplished my goal. When I returned home, I was a different person. My heart was opened. I was and am continually connected to the deep essence of love I discovered in Abadiania. It is my choice to live in this space and share it. That is what this story is really all about. Love exists. There are exalted people living in that space. The world is transforming and you can too. Jean Walters is a best selling author of Be Outrageous: Do the Impossible - Others have and you can too! and Set Yourself Free: Live the Life you were meant to Live! available on Amazon.com Also, Dreams and the Symbology of Life by Jean Walters-Lucy. She is a transformational coach and Akashic Reader. You can reach her at 314 991 8439 or jean@spiritualtransformation.com

Thursday, July 12, 2018

Truth Power

If you have ever fallen flat on your face or felt like a failure, you might want to remember this story because it involved a fellow who had the same experience. He was the pride of his wealthy parents who provided every advantage including the best schools, a law degree and even introductions to prominent people. Yet, beyond that, it was up to him to prove his mettle by becoming a capable lawyer. He had a terrible time in the courtroom. Easily overwhelmed, he was unable to stand up to opposition. His shyness and fear brought him to a wretched state of suffering, when finally he realized that there were people far worse off than he. That is when he began to turn himself around for it was then that he realized he could help alleviate the distress of others. It was at this point, when he took his focus off his own miseries, that he began developing a new philosophy called “Truth Power”. Through this philosophy, he was able to lead his native India to independence from the unfair treatments practiced under British law. His name was Mohandas or Mohatma Ghandi. In developing the philosophy of Truth Power, Gandhi incorporated the concepts he learned as a child when his father educated him in the importance of courage, generosity, and unwavering adherence to the principles of morality and truth. At the same time, his mother demonstrated gentleness, modesty, consideration, and the flexible strength that enables one to overcome through yielding. Both parents taught that if you want positive results, you must be positive, and that goodness, demonstrated persistently, triumphs over evil, even though it may seem to take time. Gandhi claimed that Truth Power would overcome opponents by changing them with respectful patient persistence – transforming them, not annihilating them. Repeatedly, he was told it would not work. Again and again, despite overwhelming odds, it did. In India, it led to democratic reforms; unification of political territories, parties; stopped civil war; revived home industries; emancipated the ‘untouchables’ from an unjust caste system; and freed the nation from British rule. What is your truth power? If you were to take your attention off yourself and face the world, what issue would you like to change? Do you have the courage to take a step in that direction? Jean Walters is a Transformational Life Coach, Akashic Record Reader, best selling author, and teacher for 40 years. You can find her books on Amazon.com Be Outrageous: Do the Impossible - Others Have and YOU can too! - Set Yourself Free: Live the Life YOU were meant to Live! - Dreams and the Symbology of Life by Jean Walters-Lucy You can reach her at jean@spiritualtransformation.com

Wednesday, June 27, 2018

Steps to take to move ahead in your career!!

Assumption: The reasoning mind is limited as it only draws from what you are aware of intellectually and your experiences. To live a bigger life, you must move beyond the constraints of the reasoning mind to experience the expansive field of pure potentiality or limitless possibilities. It is a choice. If you say, “I don’t see how that can happen,” you are operating from the reasoning mind. In other words, how did Jesus walk on water and Sai Baba manifest jewels from thin air? They operated from a higher reality. They did not limit themselves to what everyone else thought was possible. We can do the same thing. Each day open your mind to the field of pure potentiality and ask what is possible today? Ask that your next step in achieving your intention be revealed. Listen! Listen to the signs, symbols, and soul urgings. Move! Take action as directed – do not get in your own way. Develop tunnel vision to proceed toward your objective. The pauper can become the prince; the homeless person can graduate college; the secretary can eventually own the company. Everything is possible - in Spirit. When others say NO, you say YES, and keep going. If necessary, block out the world so you can live solely in Spirit and Knowing – I decree that this (objective) is done!! Here are some steps to take if you are seeking your next work adventure. You can use this same process for any other intention as well. Steps to move ahead in career Follow these steps to open to your next career adventure: 1) Make a list of all your talents and abilities. Everything you've ever been good at. (Nurturing, organizing, connecting with people, baking a cake, selling an idea, climbing trees, giving orders, cleaning houses, technology, etc.) 2) Set the list aside - that was for your reasoning mind to recognize that you are multi-talented. Now, let go of analysis, figuring things out yourself, and reasoning. In other words, get out of the way. 3) Next. sit quietly and open your mind to Spirit and every thing that goes with it - the field of pure potentiality and limitless possibilities. Just be in space. Be there until you feel stabilized/grounded. By creating mental space for new possibilities to enter, you are allowing Spirit to provide inspiration. Be still and spacious and It will. Do this over and over and your next step will be revealed. 4) Visualize the kind of activity that would be fun to call work. Recognize that this activity is your True expression and it will generate wages/income. Do NOT concern yourself with HOW it will manifest or when, or who, or any other details. Just enter this picture and FEEL the excitement and fun. Give this exercise 5 minutes. You can do this twice a day. 5) Give thanks!! and let go. Get on with your day and do what is in front of you to do. 6) Do this again tomorrow and the next day. Spirit follows what the mind directs. If your are clear in your intention, opportunities will be revealed. Jean Walters is a best selling author, teacher, Transformational Coach, and Akashic Record Reader. check out her books: Set Yourself Free: Live the Life YOU were meant to live! and Be Outrageous: Do the Impossible - Others have and You can Too! (Amazon) Also, Dreams and the Symbology of Life by Jean Walters-Lucy (Amazon) You connect: Jean@spiritualtransformation.com www.spiritualtransformation.com

Thursday, June 21, 2018

From Limitation to Inspiration

There are many inspirational stories. How people survive challenges and become stronger and better. But there are none more compelling than the story of boxer, Rubin Carter, an innocent man wrongly convicted of two murders. Carter spent 22 years in jail. While there he continually fought to survive a battle against a powerful foe, prejudice. He could not defeat this enemy, as it appeared to be infinitely stronger than he was. And it seemed determined to destroy him but he did not give up. Carter’s survival method was to take control of his mind. Instead of giving in to rage and victim-centered thoughts, he developed his imagination and ability to focus his mind on something higher. As a result he transformed his hatred and anger into love. Carter’s story presents an interesting challenge: What does it take to survive such an ordeal? How does one develop the inner conviction, strength and mental clarity to win such a battle? The answer his story provides is that you do have total control of your mind. Yes, you can lose your property, job, family, freedom and even your life. Yet, you are the only one who has control over your mind and emotions. A power that can destroy your body still cannot destroy your mind. Carter took control. He learned to focus his mind and filter his self-talk. He taught himself how to look past wrongs and stay peaceful in the flurry of others’ hatred. He won his war. And interestingly, he was finally exonerated and released from prison. This makes me wonder if prison wasn’t his spiritual path to transformation? We have other examples of fortitude and determination. In his book, A Search for Meaning, Victor Frankl described his experience as a prisoner in a German Concentration Camp. He stated that his captors could administer physical torture and limit his actions but they could not imprison his mind. In his imagination, Frankl focused on being home with his wife. Surprisingly, Frankl was one of the survivors of the “death” camps. It would seem that he was victorious in a personal battle of self-control. These people present an important point. Our bodies may be limited, but our minds and imaginations can do anything. Through will and discipline, you can train your mind to perform the impossible. You can achieve greatness. Carter and Frankl could not walk out of their respective physical confines so they conceived other possibilities. By looking for greater lessons in their circumstances, they walked out of their mental prisons. Carter turned his animosity into love; Frankl imagined his way to freedom and then assisted others to search for deeper meaning. You have the same capabilities. You can move from the self-created prison of prejudice, anger, or limitation to comprehend and experience greater possibilities. It is a shift, a discipline, and a plan and it results in peace and personal contentment. Jean Walters is a St. Louis based Personal Growth Consultant and Life Coach. She ha performed over 35,000 Akashic Readings in her career. She is a best selling author on Amazon.com. Her books are: Set Yourself Free: Live the Life You were meant to Live! And Be Outrageous: Do the Impossible – Others have and You can too! You can reach her at 314 991 8439 or Jean@spiritualtransformation.com

Monday, June 18, 2018

Failure is an Illusion

Failure is an Illusion by Jean Walters There are lots of things you cannot control – the economy, the way others think or behave, the price of eggs, the Arab-Israeli conflict, Kim Jong-Un. It would be easy to become so immersed in the number of items you cannot control that you forget what you can manage, and that would be YOU. In a fear-based culture, there is a societal tendency to dwell on negativity... What if this happens and what if that happens? People ruminate on negative possibilities. You might notice it if you watch the news (or even the day-time soap operas where everything is a tragedy). Unpleasant events dominate and it becomes vogue to talk about problems and it is easy to transfer this victim idea to yourself - poor me. “Wasn’t it terrible what Claude did to Rumania? She deserves to get revenge.” “Life is such a struggle!” “Blah, blah, blah.” Eventually with the preponderance of negativity, you get pulled down and feel lethargic, unmotivated, even depressed. Negativity results in loss of focus, movement, direction and energy BUT it doesn’t have to be that way. We have all experienced moments of loss or failure and it is the measure of a person as to how he responds to these. We can let each experience that turns out differently than we planned or expected to become a terrible tragedy. We can believe that with failure, we are losers. Or, we can deal with each experience (job, relationship, strategy, interaction) as an opportunity to pick ourselves up, learn something new, and take a different approach. As Helen Keller said, “Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all.” In other words, no one comes out of the shoot knowing everything. For all of us, life is an ongoing experiment. Take note of the people who failed in their missions before they saw any glimmer of success. Bill Gates is a prime example. Even though he is one of the richest people on earth, Gates had his share of failures. An example would be his first business called, Traf-O-Data, which crashed and burned. Undaunted Gates and his partner Paul Allen moved on to form one of the most profitable companies in the history of the world – Microsoft. Former President Harry S Truman also failed in business. He and his partner Eddie Jacobson set up a hat shop in Kansas City. America was in economic decline at the time and the business failed leaving Truman owing $20,000 to creditors. Instead of declaring bankruptcy, he paid back all the money he owed. It took more than 15 years. It set his character. Truman was also defeated in his second term as judge in Jackson County, Missouri. Undaunted, he ran again and was elected Presiding Judge. Truman became known as a man of integrity. No doubt, his response to defeat fed into that reputation. We are all driving cars right now because of the genius of Henry Ford. His global vision was that consumerism was the key to peace. He acted on that idea by creating methods of mass production of inexpensive goods, high wages for workers, and systematically lowering costs. All of which resulted in technical and business innovations, including a franchise system for Ford dealerships. Yet, along the way, he had his failures. His Detroit Automobile Company went out of business and the Edzel car was not a market success. Each of these people did not let loss or failure get in his way. They saw each experience as a stepping-stone to the next one and got stronger, more creative and savvy as they went along. Albert Einstein failed in his college entrance exams; Thomas Edison had numerous (thousands) of unsuccessful experiments before finally perfecting the light bulb and other inventions. In fact, Edison used his failures to construct his successes. In his mind, each “failure” illustrated what did not work so he could discover what did. Abraham Lincoln failed in business twice, was repeatedly defeated for public office and had a nervous breakdown. These are a few of his many challenges. All of these people failed according to the facts. Yet, if you were to focus on their failures, you would never guess their impact on the world, which was far-reaching and profound. They literally changed we the way we live our lives. Gates, Einstein, Edison, Lincoln, Ford, and, indeed all successful people, refused to pay attention to their failures. They marched to the tune of their own drummers and lived their lives accordingly. They denied failure, refusing to let it define or stop them. The thing that holds people back is “what they think they aren’t.” (I’m not smart, inventive, social, graceful, clever, witty, etc.) If you turn this around, you can decide what you are and you thereby convert negative, static energy into forward thrust (movement and power). It can sound like this: “I am determined, persevering, good at math, science, conversation, polo,” etc.) You have to agree to a positive self-image to bring your energy up and tap into your source of inspiration and motivation. Motivation comes from within, not from outside people or sources. It is a force that moves you to action. Your belief about yourself is the starting point. If you believe you can achieve despite drawbacks and obstacles, you can. If you are sure that you cannot make it, you are also right. Your decisions profoundly influence the outcomes in your life. You can base your decisions on past mistakes or on what you want to happen and focus on the steps necessary to bring that outcome into being. Either way, you are in control. What you control is yourself – your vision, determination, and desire. Take command and alter your destiny. Then no matter how many “failures” you experience, you will move forward toward your goal. The edict is, “if you think you can, you can and if you think you can’t, you can’t. Either way you are right.” Benjamin Disraeli stated it this way “The secret of success is constancy of purpose” and Audre Lorde stated, “When I dare to be powerful – to use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid.” Psychologist, Dr. Wayne Dyer said, “Failure is an illusion. No one ever fails at anything. Everything you do produces a result.” His idea is that if someone throws you a ball and you drop it, you did not fail. Instead, you say, “throw it again.” Soon you are catching the ball. You make failure illusions real by identifying with them. If you decide, “I will never be able to catch the ball. I am a failure at catching the ball.” Then you are a failure. Fear makes the illusion real. Fear can be eliminated by love. You can love the opportunity to learn how to catch the ball; how to write a letter; how to bake a cake, fix a car, or run a business. You can love the opportunity to be whatever it is that you want to be. Just keep catching the ball. “Fear knocked at the door. Love answered and no one was there.” Ancient wisdom Jean Walters is a St. Louis based Personal Growth Consultant, Life Coach, and Akashic Reader. She is the best selling author of Be Outrageous: Do the Impossible – Others have and you can too! and Set Yourself Free: Live the Life you were Meant to Live! You can reach her at 314 991 8439 or jean@ spiritualtransformation.com

Wednesday, May 16, 2018

Think Outside the Box

Ideas that were once considered outrageous have become everyday events. The rule is that once a precedent has been set, strange though it may be, you have established a new norm. Helen Keller couldn’t see, hear or talk, yet she was one of the most fulfilled positive people of the 20th century. Steven Spielberg was a skinny, shy, unknown, mediocre student in high school and went on to become involved with five of the top ten grossing movies of all time. Oprah Winfrey grew up poor in an area where being African-American posed tremendous odds for achievement. Yet she became a popular talk-show host and a billionaire to boot. The same principle is true for each of us. Look back ten years and consider the changes you have made in your life. Things you once considered outrageous are now part of your everyday existence. Remember is Star Track how they talked to a voice mechanism strapped to their shoulder? Now we are talking to computers we carry around in our purse, on our belts or in our pocket. Big screen TVs, computers, smart phones, electronic messaging, talking to people around the world on Skype, global positioning systems watching our “enemies” as well as tracking stolen cars, and a couple of years ago the stock market hit highs (and probably will again) that many thought incomprehensible. It is true, you can’t think too big. What was once considered a disabling flaw or handicap is navigated with innovation and imagination. Take this principle to heart. What is it that you want that once you considered a pure fantasy. In 1994 George Rickles lost both hands and most of his forearms in an accident that brought his carpentry career to a dramatic end. Rickles’ determination to return to carpentry led him to be fitted with prosthetic hooks. Then Volunteers for Medical Engineering designed tools and a special toolbox just for him. With patience Rickles’ proficiency with his beloved power tools proves to be promising. There is a process involved in manifesting dreams. It involves taking one step at a time and accomplishing each with an air of optimism and determination. The first step you take is the one facing you right now. That one will lead you to the next one and so on. What is your dream? Are you ready to take the first step? What is your first step?? Jean Walters is has read Akashic Records for over 35 years, taught personal and spiritual growth classes: meditation, dream interpretation, , how to build your intuition, Breaking through barriers, Listening Beyond the Words, and A Course in Miracles. She is author of: Set Yourself Free: Live the Life YOU were meant to Live; Be outrageous: Do the Impossible - others have and you can too! The Power of KNOWING: 8 Techniques to create Clarity and Confidence. Dreams and the Symbology of Life by Jean Walters-Lucy Available on Amazon.com

Thursday, May 10, 2018

Control or Peace - What shall it be?

Do you think you need to be in control? If so, you are not alone. See if you recognize this person. Janine was having major health problems. It started with Crohn’s disease, then expanded to urinary incontinence and serious digestion problems. When I looked at Janine’s body in a psychic reading, I found an incredible pattern of tightness and rigidity throughout. This pattern seemed to echo a mental mantra in Janine’s mind: I have to fix it. I have to fix everything. I asked Janine, “What is it you have to fix?” She informed me that her husband, Jeffrey, was beside himself with the up-coming death of his dog, which had been his pal since childhood. Psychically, I checked this out and saw that Jeffrey had made peace with his dog’s terminal illness. He was ready to accept his pet’s demise. He seemed to be managing his sorrow well. Janine, on the other hand, was the one freaking out. Why… because she was not in control. She could not fix any of it. She couldn’t fix the dog, or the illness. She couldn’t prevent the dog’s demise or interfere with her husband’s sadness. The only thing she could control was herself and she was doing a terrible job at that. So, the bottom line was that Janine was ruining her own health by living in resistance to the natural flow of life. She resisted because she wanted things to be a certain way, and they weren’t. She told me she was exhausted. Well, of course she was. It takes tremendous energy to resist life. Every part of her mind and body was tight and unyielding. Would she end up losing her colon or have to have stomach or urinary tract surgery before she got the message? Let go! Let God! This kind of resistance is a learned habit. Janine held the idea that everything had to be perfect all the time. And perfect meant her version of perfect. I suggested that maybe everything was already perfect, and perhaps it was time for her to accept that. The opportunity for Janine is amazing. She can create personal freedom by letting go and bring peace into her life by accepting what is. Her situation is a gift. It offered potential for growth. You, too, can look for growth in your life. You are continually offered lessons to build character, strength, and skills and potential to evolve. As you work with each lesson, you expand in consciousness. The Universe is constantly guiding you. It helps you meet the right people to assist in your evolution and amplify the characteristics you have come into this life to develop. Examine your life now. Are you fighting life? Tell tale signs are defensiveness, excuses, need for control, and the tightness you feel in your body. Who do you want to blame? In what way are you angry or resentful? This is how resistance reveals itself. When you resist you bar Spirit from entering your mind and life. You are saying, “I want to be in control and I am not willing to be open to a greater way.” Water flows downhill, around tree stumps, and over rocks. Life flows in this way also. The stream trickles down the mountain. The wind blows where it will. Waves roll freely to shore. The seasons flow, one to the other. And so it is with life. This free flow of energy exemplifies our natural state. This is Spirit. It carries change easily, subtly, and effortlessly. We are to honor and trust this flow. As we recognize change as a natural occurrence, we allow it its due without resistance. These are signs of resistance. Do you recognize any? · Blaming others for your circumstances · Anger · Taking things, events, remarks, or actions personally · Always in a hurry · Trying to make others happy · Trying to make your children into what you want them to be · Stubbornly holding to your agenda when everything points to a different way When you stop fighting life, it is easy to accept mean-spirited folks for who they are: wounded. And the truth is, their unhappiness has nothing to do with you. You can choose how you feel with each event. In every example, you can choose to remain peaceful, to wait patiently, or be willing to see the Universe working for you. When you do that, you remain connected to Spirit and Joy and you develop knowing. Activity: Pay attention to your body and notice restriction. Mentally note what you are resisting. (Change, being wrong, accepting someone or something, whatever?) Your body will tell you by the pressure or rigidity you feel. Notice your reactions to events and people. Observe judgments and resistance in yourself. Discern when you want to fight, to be right, compete for the last word, or you have to win. When you discover these barriers, relax and breathe. Observe your anger and resentment. They will help you recognize victimhood. If you notice yourself being a victim, decide if that is the mental state you want to experience. Mark when you want to complain or feel helpless. Step back and decide if you are being honest. Are you really helpless? If not, do something to change things. Jean is a Best Selling Author or Amazon. Here are her books: Set Yourself Free: Live the Life YOU were meant to Live! and Be Outrageous: Do the Impossible - others have and you can too! Also, Dreams and the Symbology of Life by Jean Walters-Lucy All available on Amazon.com Thanks, Jean

Sunday, April 8, 2018

How to Get from Where you are to Where you Want to Be!

How to get from where you are to where you want to be - health, abundance, and success! Or Are you Programmed for Success? The television blares. There is a commercial about antacids. The advertisement describes the stomach of a person with acid indigestion. “The tight, uncomfortable feeling, the accompanying headache and nausea…” Across the screen flashes the picture of an upset stomach. Little acid particles eating the lining of the stomach. It is graphic and compelling. You observe the discomfort of the sufferer – you relate to the animation and squirm with discomfort. The idea of acid indigestion has been properly implanted in the your mind and the antacid product flies off the shelf of the nearest drugstore. This scene captures an event taking place in millions of homes across the United States and the world, every night. People glued to their television screen being informed repeatedly that they could be the victims of indigestion, tooth decay, bad breath, or social exclusion because they don’t wear the correct deodorant, drink the right beer, or drive the coolest car. Television, radio, newspapers, billboards, and junk mail contribute to the bombardment on our psyche with the same mental, verbal, emotional, and pictoral suggestions. This on-slaught of negativity exemplifies misuse of mental energy or thought power. The advertiser’s insistent, often dramatic tone, creates an urgency to purchase the products that consumer had not previously contemplated. In some cultures this process would be considered “black magic.” That means it plants in your mind a condition or consequence, and because your guard is down, you succumb and make it your own. That is what mental suggestion is and why it works. People are most easily entrained into a thought condition when relaxing unconsciously as they listen and watch television. Of course that is not the only time, we let others take over and dominate our thoughts. Whenever our reasoning faculties are turned off, we are in a kind-of trance. Generally a person parks in front of the TV to relax and be entertained. They are tired, and don’t want to think, solve problems, or make plans. It is a great way to “tune out” for a while. Perfect! This fatigued state places the viewer in a beautifully vulnerable condition. The cute little advertisements flash on the screen with their catchy tunes and jingles. You mentally sing along. As you do, you have accepted their message into your mind. “You deserve a break today…” The cleverness of the lyrics determines how memorable the product is. “Have a Coke and a smile.” You grin a little. You wouldn’t dare have a party without it. The uniqueness of a commercial sets it more firmly in your mind. Frogs selling beer (that looks like fun). Skimpily clad models demonstrating exercise equipment (I want to look like that). Children looking like holocaust victims (their scary appearance grabs your attention). “You have got to help them.” Perhaps it is puppies with sad eyes. For the purpose of analysis, dissect a commercial. A typical advertisement for a “pain reliever” goes something like this. It begins with a detailed description of headache symptoms coupled with a human sufferer. You recognize and feel their pain as messages flash acrosss the screen. The graphics are followed by illustrations of the interior workings of the body. The messages portray how various areas are affected - the brain, nervous system, stomach, energy level, ability to enjoy life. Thus the initial problem, in this case a headache, becomes all inclusive. Your life is ruined. By the time the presentation concludes, the viewer is all in. He has engaged all physical senses – seeing, hearing, feeling, sensing. He has identified with (remembered) the pain. Depending on the vividness of imagination, he could also have touched, tasted, and smelled the malady. Because his guard is down and he is receptive to being entertained or informed, the viewer is vulnerable. “You say flu season is upon us. Excuse me, I’m not feeling too good right now. I believe my stomach is queasy and my head hurts!” Black magic….is the negative version of a shaman or medicine man repeating, “You are well” while he moves around with drums beating rhythmically. In other words, you can program the mind with negative or positive suggestions. Black magic is negative programming. White magic is positive. What magic are you using? It may not think that much of an impression can occur in the space of 30 or 60 seconds, but, multiply this by the number of repetitions throughout the day, the week, multiply by 52 weeks in a year, and by the various sources this type of information comes to you and you begin to grasp the magnitude of this type of mental programming. Of course, this type of sensory involvement is not limited to the media because we are inundated with similar negative ideas from the people who love us most. The process takes place every day with friends, family and coworkers as we listen to and empathize with their stories of victimhood and powerlessness. They drank the kool aid and they are passing it along to you. Mental programming is everywhere. Everyone has their ideas of what to be afraid of and how one can become a victim of something. Its on the evening news. You know the saying, “If it bleeds, it leads.” (This is how the lead story is chosen for the nightly news.) Thus drama, pain, suffering dominate our nightly update of current events. And it happens right before we go to bed at night allowing the subconscious mind time to gestate the pictures and information. And, then there is everyday conversation, “Did you know the virus is going around; everyone is getting it.” “That person is a pain in the neck (or some other part of the anatomy).” “That pisses me off (a nice set up for a urinary tract infection).” “That breaks my heart” leading to heart problems or “That burns me up (good for stomach aches)”. “He/she makes me sick”. What is your mental program? Does is sound similar to this? We are constant receptors of mental suggestions – media, friends, books, school, relatives, etc. It reminds me of the iconic movie, Manchurian Candidate, about an American soldier captured by the communists and programmed day and night with a hypnotic technique until all his defenses are broken and he functioned totally from outside control/suggestion. His assignment is to kill the presidential candidate. He attempted to do this with robot-like precision until; of course, the hero of the story discerned the plot and saved the day (and the movie). Perhaps your worldly experience is not as intense as the Manchurian Candidate, yet it could be. Victims succumb to their victimizers as a way of surviving. The recent “Me too” movement is an illustration. To get work in Hollywood you must succumb to the whims of the big dogs. (And I do mean “big dogs.”) That ruse is now being exposed for what it is – a way to victimize and intimiate fledgling actors and actresses. The same things happens in homes and businesses everywhere. In most cases, we do not realize that we are being programmed, and we often accept suggestions that are not in our best interest. Our defense in preventing the same robot-like state as the Manchurian Candidate is to become conscious, completely awake and fully aware of what is going on around us. We must engage our critical faculty. We must decide what is correct and appropriate for ourselves. We must reject ideas that are harmful and detrimental. Murdering someone may never be a suggestion given us. Yet we are continually offered opportunities to destroy our capabilities, our potential for success, and our state of health. Allowing others to dominate your thoughts and actions is not beneficial. When you give in to other’s ideas of reality, you are relinquishing your own. You have dominion over yourself and you will never fully evolve until you have accepted that. Lisa Nichols, a world renown motivational speaker tells her story of going from a struggling single mom on public assistance to a millionaire entrepreneur. She explains that her path to success started when she was broke, out of work, and had an infant son to care for. Her defining moment was when she decided that “no matter what she was going to make it.” It was at that instant that all the past negative programs of what she couldn’t do and why she wouldn’t be successful were trashed. She decided to rise from the ashes like a Phoenix. It was through clarity, focus, and determination that she moved forward grasping opportunities to grow and thrive and build a business called Motivating the Masses Inc. which ultimately went public. She set her own mental program in place and defined her future to become an industry giant, an acclaimed speaker, and media star. And she was awake and aware when she did it. The point is that you can do this too. It means making your own decisions and setting your own course. You will have to discontinue letting media marketing tell you want to think, feel, and buy. And you may have to dismiss “friends” who cannot support a picture of your success. And when you do this, you will begin to see without blinders what possibilties exist, and just like Lisa Nichols walk through the dark times to build your dream and success. It all starts with being positive. I am talented and able. I can and will build my natural abilities to become the success I choose to be. I am continually expanding in joy, abundance, love and expression. Each day new opportunities are offered to be more of what I truly am…. successful, beautiful, appreciated, loved, talented, expressive and abundant. Bottom line…become successful based on your interactions, personality, and disposition, not because you use a certain toothpaste, have the right hair style or wear designer jeans. Buying into false standards leads to developing a phony value system that complicates your life and keeps you powerless. Roger Crawford was born with rare birth defects that included a thumb-like projecction extending diretly out of righ forearem and a thumb and one finger out of his left forearm. He had no palms. His arms and legs were shortened. He had only three toes on his shrunken right foot and a withered left leg, which was later amputated. The doctor said that Roger would never walk or be able to take care of himself. Fortunately, his parents did not accept this. They taught their son that he was ony as handicapped as he wanted to be and never allowed him to feel sorry for himself or take advantage of people because of his handicap. Thus to complete his homework, Roger had to hold his pencil with both hands, writing very slowly. As a result, he regularly got into trouble because his school papers were late. To remedy the situation, Roger asked his dad to write a note to his teachers requesting a two-day extension. Instead, his dad made Roger start writing the papers two days earlier. Again, his parents instructions: you are only as handicapped as you want to be. As a result of this mental, physical programming Roger got into sports. First football where one day the ball landed in his hands and as he was running for the goal post, another player tackled him by grabbing his left leg. His prostetic leg pulled off into the player’s hands and Roger hopped acrosss the finish line carrying the ball and making a touchdown. Crawford went on to become a tennis player and the first physically handicapped player to be certified as a teaching professional by the United Stated Professsional tennis Association. He currently tours the country speaking to groups about being a winner. Crawford lives by the mantra, you are only as handicapped as you want to be. Can you compare your life to Roger’s? He says everyone has handicaps. You can see his but others are not so visible. What’s yours? Is it time to dump mental programs and beliefs that keep you limited and small. Crawford was not allowed to feel sorry for himself. Is it time for you to give up victimhood as well. You design your mental program and you also design your potential for success just like Lisa and Roger. Consider the ideas and beliefs you have been tutored with. Are any of these harmful or limiting. The issue is whether or not you allow other people – writers, public relations people, smiley girls in media ads, the president, your mother, best friend, or anyone – dictate your mental, emotional, or physical well being. Discrimination has to be practiced daily. That includes being selective in defining your state of health. How do you picture yourself? Can you identify with vibrant health? If you surrender control over your health, the consequences are negative because you have given up self-determination. I have offered examples of mental misuse, which incorporates fear techniques to motivate people to achieve specific outcomes, namely, buy a product. Now, consider the fear that is programmed into the other areas of your life. “If you give yourself credit, people won’t like you.” “You must worry about what the neighbors think of you.” “Be afraid of strangers.” “If you don’t have a college degree, you will fail in life.” “Put your desires aside to please others.” “Don’t make waves or create conflict.” These are typical beliefs handed to most of us during our domestication process. All of them undermine personal power. They affect the mental state (producing confusion and insecurity) the emotional condition (creating fear and anxiety) and your physical health. If you choose to live harmonious, healthy lives, you must develop healthy attitudes and beliefs. Discrimination is the key. Eliminate exposure to negative suggestions. Learn to manage stressful emotions. Make up your own mind including what you will accept as truth. To do this identify how you have achieved your present state and then replace fear-based beliefs with the truth of your Divine Identity -- that you exist as the vibrant energy of the Universe. We have all been designed with the potential and capacity for health, wealth, self-esteem and success. Decide what these things mean to you. Set your own goals and never relinquish the right of choice to anyone or anything outside yourself. To accept the limitations that we are confronted with daily is nothing less than blasphemy. And to allow small, fear-based ideas to define your expression, identity and state of health is wrong. Jean Walters is a Amazon Best Selling Author of Be Outrageous: Do the Impossible. She has also written Set Yourself Free: Live the Life you Were meant to Live! and Dreams and the Symbology of Life by Jean Walters-Lucy. All available on Amazon. You can reach her at jean@spiritualtransformation.com

Thursday, March 22, 2018

How to Decode Your Dreams so they help you when you are Awake!

They offer a peek into your subconscious. Many people are fascinated by dreams and want to understand their dreams' meanings and interpretations. There is no doubt that dreams are chock full of interesting information, wisdom and, when understood, can be a great tool for growth and guidance. Dreams have been a source of inspiration and mystery for hundreds of years. The end of the world has been predicted from dreams many times. Dreams have also served as subjects of amusement and fright and play a part in many cultures and folklore. There are stories of ancient civilizations who determine their course and strategies according to dreams. Cultures such as the Hopi Indians, Mayans, and Egyptians derived deep meaning from dreams and visions and used them for guidance. And, of course, dreams are prevalent in the Bible. We all know the story of Joseph interpreting the dreams of the pharaoh predicting seven years of plenty followed by seven years of famine. The fact that Joseph could interpret the pharaoh’s dreams elevated his status to a valuable advisor. Another important reference involved the story of the birth of Jesus when Joseph received a dream message to escape the devious intention of King Herod. As a result, Mary, Joseph, and the baby Jesus were saved from the ruler’s murderous rampage. And the book of Revelations is well known as a dream of John the apostle while in exile on the Isle of Patmos. When it comes to interpreting your own dreams and understanding their meaning in your life, you have to look beyond the surface and get in touch with your subconscious. A simple way to start practicing dream interpretation is by understanding what some of the most common dreams mean: 1. Late Or Lost At School A common dream that most people have experience sometime in their life is being lost in school and unable to find their class or schedule. Panic ensues. Where am I supposed to be? What am I supposed to be learning? This dream is a perfect indicator of where the dreamer is in life… feeling lost and anxious. It leads to questions such as: Why am I feeling out of control? What is my desperation? How can I slow down to gain a deeper perspective of the lessons life is providing me? 2. Hiding Or Being Chased Fear reveals itself by being chased, hiding, or avoiding something dark or frightening. Usually, it is depicted as a person you don’t know or a force that is dark and indescribable. It is easy to draw literal interpretations from such dreams. What are you afraid of? Often you are facing an unknown situation and instead of confronting it with a sense of adventure and wonder, you discover you are frightened. Of course, this is a perfect indicator of needing more information, practice in a particular area, or professional help. 3. Floating, Walking Peacefully Or Seeing Spirits By the same token, when we dream of floating or walking beside a beautiful stream, or angelic visitors, we can surmise we are living in a state of peace. 4. Attending A Party Or Boisterous Event Being at the circus or a fun party illustrates your joy in living — unless you see the circus or party as chaotic or frightful. Once you're able to decode your dreams' meanings and uncover your subconscious thoughts, you can put this insight into action. The bottom line is that your dreams are describing your current state of being. The beautiful thing is that once you understand this, you can make adjustments. For instance, if you notice “fearful” dreams, examine your fear and make some changes. Perhaps you need to educate yourself on the object of your fear or talk to someone who can help. Fear is an unnatural state. Yet, if we peer beneath it, we will find new beginnings, quests, and wonder. Dreams are amazing tools to look deep into your psyche and understand your fears, drives, desires, and lessons. One of the things that I love about dreams is they never lie, they are never critical, they state things just as they are, and they are to the point. Dreams are the subconscious mind’s way of processing your daily experience and they bring to the surface feelings you may not have realized you have. The mind illustrates these conditions succinctly in symbolic form. For example: if you are angry, you might see a boiler about to blow up or lots of red. The field of psychology has developed many theories and techniques regarding dreams. Some are even used in psychotherapy. Sigmund Freud was a famous proponent of dreams, as was Carl Jung. Jung, in particular, saw dreams as a significant tool for self-analysis. A more current theory of dream analysis is offered by Gestalt therapy. Gestalt suggests that dreams provide a means for self-integration. His theory poses that all persons, objects, and features in the dream are parts of the dreamer's personality. Thus, if you are dreaming of going fishing, you are literally fishing for something in your life, whether it's an answer, information, or a person. Metaphysicians, those who study the universe as a cosmology with organized laws and progressions, interpret dreams in much the same way. Their theory is that dreams are a running commentary from the self about the self. Dreams, when viewed objectively as a statement, or even a critique of the previous day's activities and the dreamer's reactions to same, hold a myriad of information for personal growth. They assert that when dreams are properly understood, they offer an undeniable resource of unlimited information that can be used for personal and spiritual evolution. This information is available to anyone disciplined enough to learn the language and tap into their messages. Going deeper, let’s return to the first dream mentioned above. Let’s look deeper and see how this theory applies. Here's how you can go about decoding your dreams on your own: You are in school and you have lost your schedule and don’t know where you are or where you are supposed to be. What is the class I am supposed to be taking right now? Where is it, and how do I get there? I am lost and distressed. If you consider that everything in the dream is a symbol of something in your life, a school would represent a place of learning. The feeling in the dream is being lost and stressed. With just this much information, you could look at your life and ask these questions: What am I trying to learn right now, and am I on schedule to learn it? You will discover that you don’t know what you are supposed to be learning and you are feeling out of touch with the whole process. Why? Because that is what the dream is relaying. With this dream, you could surmise a need to step back and figure out what lessons you are dealing with right now. You could also recognize that you're feeling out of touch with the process and where you are in it or what to do next. This clarification could lead to some serious soul searching and decision making; that is where the value of dreams come in. In my book, Dreams and the Symbology of Life, you are provided a simplified methodology and fundamental list of dream symbols that can be easily learned and developed for use in dream interpretation. Information on how to practically apply these symbols to the dreamer’s life experience is offered. With practice and on-going use, you can learn how to better comprehend the patterns of your life and make the necessary changes to move forward in the desired way. That's the beauty of dreams. They give us a peek into the inner workings of our minds and offer us tools for progress. ________________________________________ Jean Walters is a St. Louis-based Transformational Coach, Akashic record reader, teacher and author of Set Yourself Free: Live the Life You Were Meant to Live! and Be Outrageous: Do the Impossible – Others Have and You Can, Too! who helps women looking to create powerful change in their lives connect with their inner voice. You can reach her at her website, SpiritualTransformation.com.

Wednesday, March 14, 2018

A "winning" lesson from Little League

A "winning" lesson from Little League Perspective is everything. This story offers a wonderful analogy on how to keep your focus and how to lose it on temporal values that hold no lasting benefit. Here we go!! There was an eleven year old boy who discovered an important truth regarding the interpretation of right action and values. “Eric” played Little League baseball on the Phoenix’s team. It was the last game of the season and seemingly the most important one as it would determine the championship. But it was important for another reason as well. It was the bottom of the sixth and the Eric’s team, the Phoenixs were ahead 2-1. But the opposing team, the Pegasus, had the bases loaded with two outs and their best hitter was at bat. He hit an easy fly ball to Phoenix’s right fielder, Bobby, who circled under it, his glove in position. It looked like an easy out and the crowd grew quiet in anticipation. The ball fell into Bobby’s glove, but then bounced out. Bobby scrambled for it but by the time he got hold of it and threw it, the Pegasus won the game 3-2. The defeated Phoenix slunk off the field when suddenly their manager stated screaming at Bobby. “You lost us the game. It is your fault we lost the championship!” Bobby was devastated and ran off the field and into the woods. When the game was over, Eric went to meet his parents for the drive home but his dad wasn’t there. His mom said that dad had something to take care of. Eric was feeling dejected when in the distance he saw his father walking down the road with his arm around Bobby. Bobby was the one who didn’t feel he had a friend in the world and Eric’s dad had reached out to him in kindness and support. Eric never forgot the kindness his father extended that day. In the matter of one hour, Eric’s value system made a radical shift and the important of kindness went to the top, while winning at all costs, fell off the list. Bobby never forgot either because whenever he saw Eric’s dad he broke into a big smile and greeted him warmly. The team manager was misdirected in believing that winning was everything. He misled his players when he yelled that Bobby lost the championship because anyone who has ever played any sport, knows the team wins or loses together. Some people really believe that winning is everything. Those are the ones who put the feelings of a vulnerable eleven year old Little League baseball player as nothing. Real winners don’t necessarily hit home runs or make spectacular plays and catch every ball. Real winners like Eric’s dad, know how to be kind. He was clear in his direction and taught by example. Kindness is everything. By the way – which character in this story did you relate to? Jean Walters is a Best Selling Author on Amazon.com, a Transformational Coach, and a world-renown Akashic Reader. Her books are available on Amazon.com www.spiritualtransformation.com jean@spiritualtransformation.com

Monday, February 12, 2018

Clear out the Cobwebs to your Dynamic Self

Clean out the Mental Debris to become your Dynamic Self! To find or create your image of a fulfilled and joyful life, you must meet the challenge of looking with eyes of love. The first place you are to cast your vision is on yourself. Can you see the Light that radiates from your eyes, face, being? Can you feel its beauty, its elegance? It is not wrong to see the radiance that you are. No! But it is wrong to disavow it because your radiance is the God Force flowing within you. To love yourself (your light) requires discipline to take daily action toward that goal! Shining your light could be as easy as smiling at people, giving a sincere compliment, or telling someone your appreciate him. Everyone has a beautiful light within. By ignoring the chattering ego, you can move toward that light and allow its radiance to guide you. It is a choice – listen to your God voice of love, or the ego voice of confusion, dissension, and fretfulness. Either way, you place your attention where you want it to be. When you get focused and discover (and admit) that you are a dynamic, powerful (spiritual) being, you also realize that you have tremendous creative potential as Albert Einstein, Thomas Edison, Madame Curie, great song writers, engineers, technology wizards, genius business people and all the other amazing folks that have shined their light. Why have you not done this? What has gotten in the way? The answer is fear and small mindedness. Fear: What if I fail? So, what if you do. The answer: start over! What if people don’t like my success? Then, let them not like it and get new friends. Or, what if I outgrow “my raising?” Then either your family adjusts to the new you or they don’t. Either way, you keep moving. There are people ahead ready to celebrate you! Guilt: What if I outgrow my friends and family? Realize outgrowing means growing into your God Being. They can do the same whenever they want. Keep moving! A story: When I was in third grade. My twin sister and I were in a meeting with my mother and teacher. The adults were discussing the possibility of me skipping a grade. The teacher told my mom that I could easily skip the next grade and it would make school more interesting for me, but that it would not be a good idea because my sister, Jane, would feel bad about herself. Thus it was decided that I would not skip the next grade. As far as I was concerned I didn’t care if I skipped the next grade or not. What did I know... 4th grade? 5th grade? What did bother me was that they made the decision based on it troubling my sister. In other words, there was no consideration for what was best for me. Thus the family dynamic was “keep yourself small so that your bigness won’t upset anyone.” I found the whole scenario offensive and I was mad, but there was nothing I could do at the time.That is when I started dimming my light to compensate for others’ smallness, inadequacies and bad feelings. (What was the point of me being my brilliance?) Why am I telling you this… because in some way, you have done the same thing - made the same decision. In order to get by (get along), I will dim my light (my talent, my genius, my natural skills) so that no one is upset.) Thus the question, are you ready to turn up the volume on your light? Are you ready to blast your light out into the world like the brilliant sun it was meant to be and not care if people like it or not? Are you ready to become the dynamic self you were designed to be? What are your talents, skills, and abilities? In what way have you toned them down? What is the step you need to take right now to ramp up to dynamism? There is nothing you have ever done or been that needs to get in your way. The past is over; the future is not here. You have the present moment and that is all. Be your incredible self in this moment. What are you being urged to do? What creative impulse are you to follow? How can you beam your light brighter and spread the love that is within you in a greater way? Find the passion you have inside. Focus on your greatest desire or goal and use each day to expand toward it - a time to discover your limits and be all that you are capable of being! Jean Walters is the author of Set Yourself Free: Live the Life YOU were meant to Live! Be Outrageous: Do the Impossible - Others have and You can too! and Dreams and the Symbology of Life (as Jean Walters-Lucy) all available on Amazon.com You can reach her at jean@spiritualtransformation.com and 314 991 8439 office. For coaching call 314 991 8439

Wednesday, January 17, 2018

How to Raise Grateful Children and all about Gratitude!

They call themselves the Mom-Preneurs and they are the creative team behind a new Thanksgiving craze. They have created a "Turkey on the Table" kit that comes with a turkey (not flesh and blood), double-sided feathers that are replacable, a marker, and a storybook on "how to make the most of your bird" that is sure to spark creativity and gratitude. Of course, when I read the article, I immediate converted the methods to be used all year long. We know that during the holidays it is easy to get caught up in gifts and forget the reason for the season. So these bright moms created a way to make gratitude the focus. They wanted to make sure their collective five kids grew up realizing how fortunate they are. They approached Thanksgiving with each child writing something he/she was grateful for on one of the blank turkey tail feathers. (This could be a picture, a word, or a story.) Then he stuck the feather on the bird. By Thanksgiving, the turkey was fully dressed and made a fine table decoration. These gals were inventive enough to create kits that were sold at 1600 stores including Bed Bath & Beyond. And, even more important, their children were excited to write gratitudes each day. Now, if we take this concept a bit further we can come up with other ways to include gratitude in our day. You can have a gratitude jar and each time your child demonstrates he is grateful, you put a marble in the jar and when the jar is full, take him out for a treat. And you can come up with others ways to accomplish the same purpose. What if we practice gratitude all the time? The reason I loved the idea of teaching thankfulness to children is that gratitude is a HIGH spiritual energy and when we express and FEEL it, we attract more of the things for which we are grateful. Gratitude is a magnetic force and can be used for GOOD!! If you listen to people closely, you notice that many have "victim" stories. I am always amazed at how they choose to express how bad things are when we live in such an abundant world. ( I had the flu; my son/daughter lost his/her job; My plumbing needs to be fixed; I slipped and fell.) Of course, when they do this, they lower their energy and if you get involved with their stories, you lower yours as well. Thus consider your choices - raise your energy to experience a better life and more blessings or lower your energy to live in upset and fear. That choice should make it clear! Gratitude is the way!! Jean Walters is best selling amazon.com author: Set yourself Free: Live the Life YOU were meant to Live! and Be Outrageous: Do the Impossible - Others have and you can too! You can reach her for Akashic Readings or Coaching at jean@spiritualtransformation.com

How to Learn to Trust (People, Your Intuition, Life)

Can I Trust My Partner? Many people ask , “How can I learn to trust my partner / friend / spouse etcetera? Yet, the real question is not about trusting others, but learning to trust yourself. Long ago we were handed a set of beliefs and we accepted them without question. Children don’t know how to analyze an idea to determine its truth, but they do know how to feel. For the most part, the concept of intuiting truth or determining what feels right and what doesn’t has been disavowed. In other words, we are taught to believe what we are told and we observe what our parents do, and that becomes out guidance rather than trusting our own feelings. A wisened soul may secretly recognize deception, whereas most folks just go by the rules and do as they are told while ignoring the queasy feeling in their gut that speaks of something being wrong. Hence a problem develops because we buy in to family dynamics and belief systems that are debilitating, limiting, and just WRONG. Here is an example; I am your mother, father, sister, brother, best friend so you should believe what I am telling you. From there you are offered an uninformed opinion or judgment that skews a situation to fit their idea of truth or makes that person look good. Perhaps you ignore your gut feeling that screams, that doesn’t feel right. Thus you go along with their “program” to insure your acceptance in that particular tribe or group. And that is when you destroyed your self-trust. Because you have put others opinions and beliefs ahead of your own, you have lost touch with yourself and the still small voice of intuition that resides within you. The voice is still present, but ignored. You have put the concern for what others think of you higher in your preferences than the guidance that comes from within. Getting back to the theme of how to trust others, we find ourselves in a quandary of mixed thoughts and emotions. You have lost the ability to trust because you have lost your integrity in listening to and following your higher energy (intuition). Because you have not learned to trust yourself, you don’t know how to trust others. Put simply, trust yourself so that you know who else you can trust. The answer is within you. Your still small voice will tell you. Your job is to listen. To take this a bit further, because you have a history of ignoring higher (intuitive) intelligence, you rationalize reasons for being in or staying with unhealthy relationships. In other words, you make up stories: I’ve know Joe (or Julie or Estelle or whoever) since kindergarten (so therefore I should trust her/him). Or my parent told me this, so therefore it is the way to go (even their parent lives an ineffective life). Or, you “wisely” decided that Jim was a good guy because he has a lot of friends and is seemingly well liked. And you naively conclude that if others approve of him and find him trustworthy, then he must be. As a consequence you are letting others do your thinking for you and you have determined a person’s trustworthiness based on his friends. Really! You have not seriously observed his connection with his buds. You are taking everything on face value and you wonder why you end up disappointed. Do they enjoy each other because they play well together? Are these folks a true support system that shows up in difficult times or a play group or good old boys club? Is it that they have grown up together and are still holding on to childhood relationships or sharing in adult concerns? Do they have a common higher purpose that they explore together or is it Monday night football? In other words, what is the nature of Jim’s relationships? No judgment; just observation. As you learn to observe people and relationships, the truth becomes obvious. That is, it becomes clear to you and trusting your own observations helps you develop willingness to be open and honest with yourself. Thus you begin the journey to self trust and drawing your own conclusions based on observation or actions, words, and intention, but not judgment. When people don’t trust themselves, they quickly judge circumstances and people so they can feel safe. Of course there is no safety in hiding and protecting. It is just another avoidance behavior. And when we default into judging, we will never have the life or love we desire. Moving this a bit deeper into self-trust, every person has a connection to their inner guidance as it is always present and available. We call this intuition. This guidance is always active and speaking to us. It can come through as a gut feeling, an image (you hit every STOP light at every intersection), a sign (like a book falls on your head), or a knowing. (an absolute definite feeling of how things are). Intuition is a feeling of lightness and being more alive. As you listen and act on this intuitive voice, it grows in strength and supports you in your hopes and dreams. When you go against it you feel heavy, lack energy, and feel a kind of deadness. People say, “I’m stuck. I don’t know what to do or think.” Primarily that means they have gotten their “instructions” but are afraid to go against what they were taught to believe, so now they are stuck. Afraid to move forward, they are stuck in the past. Generally “stuckness” indicates it is time to do something different, brash, courageous -- take a step in a new direction. If you feel stuck, ask yourself, “What has my still small voice (feelings) been urging or prompting me to do?” Is there some sort of “break-out” required. It will always involve looking at your situation with new eyes. That means asking some appropriate questions – what is this situation trying to tell me? (Cue: it has to be a propulsion forward; it is never a put-down.) What is the change I am being asked to make? What fear am I challenging? What is the next step toward my highest good? You can even write these questions down and ask for guidance. By being open, your answers will come and, be aware, they will not be what you anticipated. You will always be guided toward a higher expression, not necessarily what you would be considered safe. Yet, when you follow this guidance, you will end up exactly wehre you wanted to go or BETTER. The secret is learning how to listen. Remember, you are listening to HIGHER energy. You are not being asked to jump off a cliff. You might be encouraged to make a phone call, set up an interview, take a class, show up at an event, and, in general, become more visible. As you listen and follow, your life force will flow, your intuition will get stronger, and your energy will be renewed. Then you will know how to trust yourself and how much to trust others. Jean Walters is a best selling author on Amazon.com Her books are Be Outrageous: Do the Impossible - Others Have and You Can too (a book about discovering your passion and Set Yourself Free: Live the Life YOU were meant to Live! and Dreams and the Symbology of Life by Jean Walters-Lucy - For readings or counseling, you can reach her at Jean@spiritualtransformation.com 1185 words