What's Love Got to do with It?

The Course in Miracles states that there is nothing real but love and that all problems boil down to a lack of love. The author, Osho, in his Book of Secrets, states that love is spontaneous and cannot be controlled. You cannot control it; you have to allow it to happen. So, how can we increase our ability to love and what gets in the way of allowing it?

“Your presence, (or your thinking), is what gets in the way. Modern man is capable of “doing.” Yet BEING is what allows love to happen.” Osho

When we are being our natural selves – no analyzing, no judging – we can allow love to flow. Because of our propensity to base our lives on doing, we become one dimensional. We become “doing beings.” Love cannot be done.
Consider children. They don’t know how to do much, yet they are very good at being. And, love flows easily through them. Play is another element of being. Children play easily. Do you know how to play?

Another example is meditation. You cannot do meditation, but you can experience meditation. You can be quiet and listen and BE in meditation. You can let JOY fill you and take possession of you, and then you can flow in meditation.
The biggest barrier to love is the way we treat ourselves. (Osho would call it our presence or our consciousness.) Often people indicate they love themselves because they get massages, or treat themselves to a vacation. These are nice things to do, but often while they do these things, they are berating themselves for not being perfect enough, or having the wrong body image, or never completing their “to do” list or various other affronts. They are mentally hating themselves (criticizing, and judging), while they go through the motions of being kind to their bodies.

Often, people will say, “I am in love,” or “I want to be loved.” Usually what they mean is I want someone else to love me because I am not willing to love myself. That is when relationships become convoluted because we ask others to give to us what we are unwilling to give to ourselves. That is also when we are angry. When it appears that someone is not giving us the attention, affirmation and love that we want, we resent them. It is a conditional kind of experience. We want loyalty, fidelity, confirmation, affection, attention and we are not giving these to ourselves. When we change our own behavior and begin to truly love, love flows naturally to ourselves and to others. We give up the critical voice and demeaning behaviors and move into a sense of true expandedness.

When you really love, opposite emotions cannot enter into you. They are automatically excluded. For instance, if a room is filled with bright light, darkness cannot enter. If you dim emotions can take over. And when you are brimming with love, negative emotions cannot enter.

The love we seek is deep inside us. It is in the heart. We can experience it by going to the heart and asking that love be presented. Let this love expand and fill you. Spend time there daily. Give it another minute tomorrow and the next day. Soon, the critical thoughts fall away. They no longer fit.

What's love got to do with it? Everything!!!

Jean Walters is a Personal Growth Consultant and Transformational Coach and Akashic Reader for over 35 years. She is available at 314 991 8439 or on skype for an appointment. Jean@spiritualtransformation.com

Simplification or Lack

Recently I received a message from a client referencing the changes we are all experiencing in the world. Her comment had to do with a television show she was watching featuring Financial Expert, Suzie Ormann. Suzie mentioned the fact that things are changing in the way people are dealing with their financial needs. Her thought was that now we need to focus on enjoying saving instead of spending. That the times have changed and that includes her teachings from 7 to 8 years ago. This includes the way we look at retirement and spending, etceteras. Ormann’s belief is that we need to get back to the family and not focus on THINGS, such as a bigger car, bigger house and all the things we give our children without them working for it. She said that we need to be honest with ourselves and know our truth and she also mentioned living below our means.

My client’s thoughts were that she doesn’t do very well at either saving or living below her means. (This is true for many of us.) Her question is: where does Universal abundance comes in to this picture? Apparently there seems to be some confusion as to how these concepts mesh. To her, living below her means is considered lack.

Here is my answer: I don't think living below your means is necessarily lack. (Although if you are just getting by, it may seem like that.) We (humanity) are moving from a time of competition - who has the nicest car and house, the cutest outfit, or makes the most money. Our pride has been in THINGS and I think, like Suzie, we are shifting into "this outfit is not new or the latest fashion and I like it just fine and I feel fine wearing it to the event." In other words, maybe we are past the "proving it" stage of development and can just enjoy the simple things. I know that many of you are already doing this as you find great pleasure in nature, your garden, your animals, your family and friends. Isn't that wealth?

So, what I am saying is that when we settle down and get quiet, there is peace and joy naturally and the hustle-bustle of life is not so compelling. Isn't that what you are saying when you assert, "I don't want to rush." And then the desire to have some money to cushion yourself seems like a natural extension of loving peace, beauty, calmness and releasing the need to go fast or prove anything to anyone. Saving money is FOR you, not a bragging statement to anyone else. You become more self-enclosed, autonomous in so many ways, and calmer. Life becomes more internal and less external.

The Universe is always generous and abundant. Check out the flowers everywhere! Abundance is ours - it is not aways in the form of money. It is alway in the form of opportunity and love. As we receive the Universe's gifts with joy and appreciation, they flow even more abundantly into our lives. And, that includes money too.

Yes, it is a departure from old ways, but it may be a venture into true Spirituality and putting love before everything else. What do you think?

Jean Walters, Personal Growth Consultant, Transformational Coach, Certified Reality Therapist, Akashic Reader, columnist, syndicated radio host, instructor of personal empowerment 314 991 8439

Expect innovative changes for everyone....

Recently a read an astrologer's interpretation of the astral events occurring in this time period. One of the things that struck me had to do with a long term change occurring now. It has to do with the planet Uranus (planet of quick changes, humanitarian issues, innovation, and genius) moving into Aries (the masculine sign of action, inventiveness, adventurousness, getting things done.) This event will continue for seven years. Get used to it!

This event is important because everyone has Aries in their natal chart so that we are all effected by this change AND the world is effected as a whole. When you combine the energy of Uranus with the energy of Aries, you get lots of action and movement. Both of these influences enjoy independence and the desire to do it their own thing in their own way and are not willing to respond to either bullying or being told what to do. Can you see how this might effect our world? We all have some of this within us.

We have been watching major revolutions all over the planet and even in our own country. We don't want to be told how to run our lives or what others think is good for us. We want to decide these things our selves. We see evidence of this in our political system when we are treated like children who don't know how to take care of ourselves.

There will be no denying that we live in a time of massive change. What we thought of as the status quo is no more. Be ready to move - energetically, spiritually, in your career, relationships and in all ways. Systems will change, organizations that have been around a long time could go to be replaced with new ones. There will be innovation!

This is the time for entrepreneurial endeavors. You may desire to start your own enterprise. You may have the energy you have been missing in the past to do that. Everyone may get an energy jump, or perhaps a bit more inspiration.

Choose how you want to experience these changes. As I have said many times, we can go easy or hard. When we cooperate with change, we learn to flow and life is easier and when we resist it, we deplete our energy and enthusiasm and feel stressed.

Here is hoping this bit of insight into the times in which we live might help prepare you for your journey and your own personal transformation. Blessings!!
Jean Walters, wwww.spiritualtransformation.com 314 991 8439 personal growth consultant and coach, Akashic reader, transformational teacher

Seeing symbols in our times!

Here in the Midwest, it has been so hot for so long that I decided to look for a purpose for the extreme weather beyond it being summer. So here goes! If we consider that everything in the physical world relates, at least symbolically, to our inner life, consider this: the extreme heat we have experience relates to purification (heat = purification).
We are in a new age - the Aquarian Age. One of the features of this new age is the shift from fear to love. Perhaps we need to purge or purify from our thinking "fear." Then as we take this further, I have noticed that every road I travel on is under construction. Some have even buckled with the radical heat (purification). Our roads represent our pathways in life. Is your path changing or is it being restructured? Is the old way archaic, out of date, no longer serviceable? The ways we once traveled through life may no longer be relevant to who we are or where we are going. We have have to design a new system or philosophy to accomplish our mission.
Have you noticed that people are more outspoken, more opinionated, more involved in the bigger picture or the world view. This is also part of the new age. We are not longer "believers" as would relate to the Piscean Age. Now we must "KNOW," as would reflect the Aquarian influence. You remember the axiom, "You shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free." We must know the truth.
As we change, everything in our world transforms as well. This transformation really is the purpose of physical life. Change means evolution.
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